STUDY HELPS & INDEX
(Index entries in bold indicate the presence of study helps)
NUMBERS
1 Corinthians 13
158, 366, 526
A
Abortion
D1, Pg.31,123
D3, Pg.85
D5, Pg.325
T: Pgs. 44, 418, 562, 702-703, 752
G: Pg.126: 20
Pg.383: 236, 411
Pg.802: 79
PX Pg. 321
WX Pgs. 1054-1055
Acceptance
4-5, 115, 130-131, 135-138,
140-141, 204, 230, 233, 262-263, 302-303, 499, 519, 520
in conversation
155
Accurate empathy
304
Achilles Heel
450
Acting out anger
451
Active listening
304-308, 446
Adapting
7-8, 521-522
Admiration
5-6, 96, 107, 111, 115, 138-139, 141,
263-264, 520-521
Adultery
68-69, 486
See also Infidelity
Advertising
168
Advice
giving
12, 61, 366
in counselling
205
seeking from mate
108-109, 112
Affairs: See Adultery; Infidelity
Affection
15, 21, 33, 44, 45, 47, 64, 68, 106, 121,
124, 145-146, 169, 175, 198, 201, 216-217, 218, 230, 233, 247, 255-256, 288, 293, 438, 457, 465, 470, 473, 526
D2, Pg. 573
T: Pgs. 224-227
G: Pg.383: 81, 273, 308, 319, 332, 450
Pg.1236: 139, 150, 342, 360
Pg.1393: 52
Pg.1495: 9, 11, 15, 17, 24, 26
HTL Pgs. 99 & 127
W 50, Pg. 1 "Question of Love"
W 52, Pg. 1 "Tender Loving Care"
W 56, Pg. 1
W 71, Pg. 13 "Tenderness"
W 126, Pg. 1 "Dr. Hug"
See also Touching
Agape
196
Aggressiveness, male
300
Aims: See Goals
Alcohol
396, 436
Alcoholics
315-316
Aldrich, Joe
366
Alibis, sexual
42, 55, 57, 201
Allen, Woody
43
Anchoring
412-413
Angelic qualities
135
Anger
13-14, 34-35, 45, 76-77, 89-90, 99, 100,
131, 147-148, 153, 199, 232, 262, 335-338, 370, 377-378, 384, 441-442, 451, 525
D1, Pg. 381-384
D2, Pg. 203
D7, Pg. 558
T: Pgs. 537-550, 607-614
G: Pgs. 114-117
Pg.126: 39
Pg.486: 69
Pg.754: 9
Pg.1167: 33
Pg.1236: 35, 255
Pg.1433: 124
HTL Pg. 18-19
W 45, Pg. 1 "Fury Fends Off Friends"
See also Arguments, Patience
Angry senders
245-246
"Annie Hall"
43
Anniversaries
25, 348, 501
Anxiety: See Worry
Apathy, sexual
473
Apologising
31-32, 35, 130, 164, 496
See also Forgiveness
Appearance
9-10, 26-28, 55, 111, 135, 145-146,
339, 352, 494-495, 508-509, 517-518
D1, Pg.432
D2, Pg.555-556
DT1, Pg.319
G: Pgs. 124-125
Pg.126: 42
Pg.720: 146
Pg.1577: 715, 811
Appleton, William
220
Appreciation
21-23, 35-36, 37,
103, 107, 110, 119, 137-138, 152, 159-161, 189, 192, 233, 252-258, 263-264, 294-295, 298, 325-326, 340-341, 353, 362, 378-380, 386, 417, 443-444, 499, 502, 520-521, 522-523
D1, Pg.205-206,212,594
D4, Pg.133
D5, Pg.30-31
G: Pg.383: 9, 119, 280, 294, 332, 426, 444
Pg.754: 26, 130
Pg.1102: 11, 105
Pg.1202: 24
Pg.1213: 8
Pg.1236: 55, 67, 81, 99, 100, 102,
111, 113,
137, 142, 229, 234,237, 242, 244, 249, 275, 301, 303, 304, 306, 310, 328, 333
Pg.1393: 9, 24, 69
Pg.1433: 18, 19, 77, 122, 128, 133,
137, 161, 164,165, 191
Pg.1550: 9, 11, 28
HTL, pages 10, 18, 35, 41,100, 105, 125, 326
W 60, Pg. 1 "Applause!"
See also Kindness & Courtesy, Encouragement
Approval
230, 255
Arguments
30-32, 31-32, 34-35,
86, 108, 153, 199, 231, 235, 242, 257-258, 270-272, 286, 303, 310, 329, 335-338, 342, 354-356, 364-365, 372, 376, 383, 414-415, 422, 427-428, 430-431, 450-454, 463, 481-485, 501, 521-522
Rules for
34-35, 162-163, 270-272,
355-356, 451-452, 463-464, 483-484
D1, Pg.524
D3, Pg.294-298,345-350
D5, Pg.16-20
D6, Pg.290,292-293
D8, Pg.7
T: Pgs. 537-550
G: Pgs. 118-119
Pg.114: 33, 37, 38, 39, 41, 54, 55,58
Pg.383: 424
Pg.486: 69
Pg.576: 13
Pg.1123: 29
Pg.1142: 45
Pg.1236: 2
Pg.1323: 272, 326
Pg.1393: 92
Pg.1433: 74, 75, 82, 94, 123, 125,
126, 128, 136,137, 151, 162, 182, 188
Pg.1550: 17
Pg.1726: 3, 13
Pg.1728: 4, 6
HTL, Pgs. 23, 38, 84, 59-164, 330
See also Anger, Humility & Pride
Asking for things
148-149
Asking questions
229, 471
Assumptions
80-81, 208, 225, 451
Assurance
203
Atmosphere (home)
426-427
Attention
230, 233, 255-256
Attitudes
3-5, 193, 378, 511, 517, 524
G: Pg.118: 1
Pg.486: 76
Pg.580: 84
Pg.1123: 35
Pg.1236: 84, 125, 382
Attractiveness
367, 468
Auditory man
403-405
Auditory woman
407-408
Availability
339-340
Awareness
309
B
Babies, effect on marriage
34
Bachelors
80
"Back burner" box
443
Bacon, Lord
286
Bad breath
357
Bailey, Franklin C.
462
Bargaining in marriage
248, 452
See also Contract, marriage
Bath Oil
339
See also Perfumes & fragrances
Bathroom strategy
426-427
Baths
218
"Bears"
250
Beauty: See Appearance
Belittling
107, 109, 140, 165, 210-211, 271, 276, 291
D7, Pg.150-152
See also Criticism & Gossip
Bessell's rules of togetherness
225, 229-230
Bessell's ways to keep your lover
240
Betcher, Dr. R. William
40-41
Birth Control
D1, Pg.157
D5, Pg.325
T: Pgs. 702-703, 807
See also Abortion
Birthdays
183, 256, 348
Birthmarks
40
See also Deformities
Bitterness
132, 208, 347-348, 523
D2, Pg.504,565
D3, Pg.257-265
D7, Pg.526
D8, Pg.275
T: Pgs. 372-375, 730, 797-798
DT1, Pg.315
Blackmailing
451
Blame/blaming
276, 413, 441, 485-486
Blood sugar, low
492
Body language
205
See also Nonverbal communication
Body odor
357
See also Health & hygiene
Boldness: See Shyness
Boredom
27, 524
Bossiness, female
13, 27, 166, 295
Brackman, Jacob
436
Bradley, Amanda
209
Brain, Human
517
Brandt, Dr. Henry
132, 387
"Brat," the
358
Breakdowns
206
Breakfast in bed
360, 491
Breast infections
340
Brown, Charlie
260
Browning, Elizabeth Barrett
29, 94
Bryan, William Jennings
322
Bubble bath
174
"Bugging"
316
Butterfly & the buffalo
97, 104-105
Byrd, Admiral
492
Byron, Lord
220
C
Caldwell, Taylor
321
Calmness
104
Campfire (romance)
174
Caring
278
Carter, Rosalie
202
Caruso, Enrico
15
Casals, Pablo
509
Caution
236
Ceiling people
239
Celestial love
134-135
Chanel, Coco
468
Change
194, 293, 314, 320, 343, 368, 442, 478, 495
D1, Pg.50-51,593
D2, Pg.629-648
D3, Pg.17,41-43,324-325,424
D4, Pg.192-193,309,344,395
D5, Pg.74-75,152,155,269-280,300-307
D6, Pg.81,101-105,109-110,283
D7, Pg.29,143-144,270-272,329-333,564
D8, Pg.77,200-203,432
T: Pg. 823
G: Pg. 376
Pg.383: 145, 146
Pg.1142: 187
Pg.1433: 23
Pg.1482: 5
Pg.1577: 8
HTL Pgs. 4,9,44
DT1, Pg.1,145,212
DT2, Pg.16,46
Character analysis
450
Character (symbol), special
183
Charts & lists:
100 ways to love your wife
389-391
121 things to avoid with wife
391-393
63 ways to build maturity
231-239
Auditory man, characteristics
403-405
Bessell's rules of togetherness
225, 229-230
Bessell's ways to keep your lover
240
Better listening, 10 commandments
156-157
Blueprint for loving
432-433
Common masculine faults
136
Communication guidelines
153, 318
Conversation starters
175-176
Couple request index
455
Crazymakers
315-317
Danger signs in relationships
432
Depression, symptoms of
376
Differences, male/female
97-98, 301, 351-354,
368-369
Feelings man, characteristics
405-407
Feelings words
445
Goals worksheets
443
Health fundamentals
147
Helpful messages
448-450
How to treat a woman in public
502
Hurtful messages
450-451
Ideal husband, qualities of
280
Ideal woman, qualities of
432
Kitchen "alphabet"
168-169
Levels of communication
196-197
Love notes, ideas for
178-182
Love prescriptions
242-243
Marriage check-up
466
"Nevers"
502-503
"Pleaser" form
444
Reward contract
455
Roadblocks to good communication
307-308
Romance, ideas for
174-175, 493
Rules for fighting
34-35, 270-272, 355-356
Secrets of a happy marriage
341-343
Sex discussion questions
469
Spouse's preferences
172
Sympathy, how to give
142
Tit-for-tat contract
455
Turn-ons & turn-offs
357-359
Visual man, characteristics
401-403
Ways husbands hurt their wives
96
Ways to improve self-esteem
283-284
Ways to make wife feel special
360-363
Ways to say "I love you"
18-32, 184
What's romantic, what's not
418
What's sexy, what's not
418
Women who have difficulty w/ relationships
423-425
See also Quizzes & Tests
Chauvinism, female
424
Chauvinism, male
79
Checklists: See Charts & lists
Cheerfulness
20, 26-27, 146-147
G: Pg.580: 62, 63
Pg.813: 21
Pg.1035: 342
Pg.1102: 9
Pg.1123: 12
Pg.1236: 19, 141, 233, 311, 338
Pg.1416: 6, 8, 9, 10
Pg.1433: 116
Pg.1554: 27
Pg.1577: 90, 116, 375, 383, 390, 398,
486, 505, 529, 544, 546, 566, 579, 664, 673, 719, 748, 785, 795
See also Happiness & joy
Childlikeness
147-148, 487, 509
Children
14-17, 21, 287-288, 349, 526-527
choice & decisions
273
discipline
16, 21, 132, 527
impact on marriage
78, 398, 429-430, 486-487
marriage check-up
466
new babies
34
self-esteem
203, 282-284
Chivalry: See Kindness & courtesy
Choice & Decision-making
71, 127, 234, 290,
383-385, 421
"Christian Freedom for Women"
257
Christlikeness
367
Churchill, Sir Winston
320, 513
Clarity
156, 245, 447
Cleanliness
358
"Clearing"
334
Cliches
196
Climax: See Orgasm
Coercion, on spouse
71
Cologne
173, 359
See also Perfumes & fragrances
"Colonisers"
185-186
Comfort
116, 202-209, 291
Commitment in marriage
190, 191, 200, 238, 328,
346, 365, 441, 460, 477, 514-515
fear of
49
Communication
1, 12-14, 28-32, 33, 59-64, 93-94,
96, 98-100, 110, 115-116, 119, 130-131, 150-153, 161-162, 175, 185-188, 196-197, 199, 204-208, 209, 245-251, 252, 254, 255, 258, 259-264, 273-278, 284-286, 300-318, 322, 328, 328-330, 340, 341-343, 343-344, 345-350, 354-357, 364-367, 368-393, 386, 397, 399-400, 444-458, 458-459, 461-462, 466, 470, 495, 500, 524-525
in lovemaking
217-218, 298, 467
need for
352
nonverbal
29, 110, 186-187, 304-305
problems
307
Honesty, Sex: D2, Pg.564-570,591
Relations w/Others: D2, Pg.339-354
D3, Pg.342-345
T: Pg. 367-371
HTL Pgs. 6, 44, 61, 81
W 85, Pg. 1
W 198, Pg. 1
Sensitivity: D3, Pg.414-420
See also Listening
Companion wives
253
Companionship
240-241, 351
"Companionship love"
370
Comparisons
children
14
spouse
323, 503
Compassion
340
Competitiveness
86, 189, 235, 319
sexual
50-52
Complaining
108
See also Thankfulness
Compliments
21-23, 35, 152, 325-326,
340-341, 495, 500-501, 502, 505, 521
See also Appreciation; Kindness & courtesy
Compromise (marital)
72-74, 94, 248, 452, 522
Concern
205
Conciseness
286
Confession
209
Confidence
236, 467
Conflicts: See Arguments
Confrontation
231
Consideration
18-32, 105, 233, 234, 256, 374-375
D3, Pg.308,345-354,397-400,402
D4, Pg.182-183
HTL Pgs. 4, 25
W 46, Pg. 1: "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
KM: Manners
See also Kindness & courtesy
Constructiveness
336
Contentment
123
Contingency plans
3
Contract, marriage
454-456
Contradiction
295
Conversation
1, 60, 152, 246-247, 285, 329
conversation starters
175-176
inner conversations
153-154
D3, Pg.308
See also Communication
Cooking
168-169, 216, 427
Coolidge, Calvin
6
Cooperation
237
Core symbol
247
Correction, accepting & receiving
117-119, 380-381
Costumes
9-10, 524
Counselling
friends
202-209
with spouse
144, 329
Couple Request Index
455
Courage
102
Courtesans
215
Courtesy: See Kindness & courtesy
Courtship: See Romance
Cowper, William
496
Crazymakers
315-318
Creativity
236, 351
Credit (financial)
435
Crises
206, 251, 519
Criticism & Gossip
30, 76, 91, 96,
98, 107, 109, 116, 141, 164-165, 190, 197, 204, 210-211, 257-258, 271, 291, 379, 387-388, 465, 485-486, 496, 502-503, 516, 525
asking for criticism
449
fear of criticism
60-61
D2, Pg.237-243,341,500-516,550,611-612
D3, Pg.211,387,445,447
D6, Pg.143,144
D7, Pg.150-152,442,445,448
D8, Pg.179-182
T: Pg. 349, 551-556, 741-747, 802-805
G: Pg. 754-770
Pg.114: 32
Pg.122: 13
Pg.126: 7, 43, 54, 58
Pg.383: 178, 225, 375, 427
Pg.490: 44, 84
Pg.602: 16, 372
Pg.1102: 2
Pg.1118: 19
Pg.1135: 9
Pg.1141: 4
Pg.1142: 18, 162
Pg.1159: 5, 21, 22
Pg.1167: 13, 24
Pg.1202: 37
Pg.1236: 81, 96, 130, 202, 231, 266-267,
289, 334
Pg.1393: 53, 63, 88
Pg.1422: 43
Pg.1433: 7, 17, 22, 67, 82, 118, 120, 124,
131, 132, 142, 146, 150, 158, 161, 182
Pg.1482: 14, 23-25,
33, 38
Pg.1501: 16
Pg.1550: 10, 26, 27
Pg.1577: 77, 104
HTL Pgs. 6, 19, 21, 27, 34, 42, 62, 76,
104, 105, 114
W 46, Pg. 1 "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
Cuber, John
434
Curiosity
232
D
Dancing
54
Danger signals in marriage
432
Dates
scheduled (with spouse)
57
teens
350
David, King
19, 497
Davies, A. Powell
263
Day, Jerry
376
Dead love
85-86
"Dear Ann Landers"
438-439
Debt
168
D3, Pg.217
D4, Pg.431
D7, Pg.31-36,36-38,44-49
Decisions: See Choice & decision-making
Deems, Charles
151
Defending yourself: See Justifying yourself
Defensiveness
155
Deformities
40, 323, 502, 517
Dependency
146
Depression
161, 251, 339, 376-377, 410, 473
effect on sex
266-268
symptoms of
376
T: Pg. 562
See also Discouragement
"Derailing"
316
Devotions, family
183
Diet, proper/improper
396
D6, Pg.310-317
T: Pg. 406-407
G: Pg. 789
Pg.1159: 13
Pg.1730: 13
Pg.1747: 48
See also Health & hygiene
Differences, male & female
62-64, 95, 166-167,
273, 300-302, 319-320, 357-359
intuitive
98, 368-369
mental/emotional
98, 195, 255, 368
physical
98
sensitivity
97-98, 199
sexual
98, 212-213, 264, 368, 438-439, 493
Dignity
134
Diller, Phyllis
518
Direct approach (appreciation)
119
Directness in communication
447
Disagreements
231, 235, 450-454, 481-485
See also Arguments
Discouragement
142, 161, 233, 251, 339, 340,
376-377, 525
D1, Pg.502-505,613
D2, Pg.126-127,146,584,621
D3, Pg.58,46-49,200
D4, Pg.89-96
D6, Pg.149,340-345
D7, Pg.167-168,402
D8, Pg.46,165,322-325,454-455,470
T: Pg. 93-101, 174-178, 213-215, 625-633
G: Pg.673: 177
Pg.1035: 123, 172, 347, 376
Pg.1213: 38
Pg.1422: 19
Pg.1577: 148, 150, 267, 288, 347, 367,
475, 572, 576, 667, 747, 797, 838
DT1, Pg.138,176
See also Depression
Dishonesty
141
See also Honesty & Openness
Disraeli
344
"Distance": See "Space"
Distraction
16
Diversion
335
Divorce
38-39, 52-53, 72-74, 81-83, 84, 85-86,
190, 234, 242, 244, 342, 425, 434-436, 462, 507, 516
effect on children
434
D1, Pg.263-267
D5, Pg.324
D6, Pg.335-340
D7, Pg.471-484
L 110:1
T: Pg. 562
G: Pg.383: 252
Pg.754: 130
Pg.1236: 390, 395
Pg.1393: 7, 8, 34, 39, 43, 80, 94
PX Pg. 324 (Testimonies: Divorces) & Pg.
271-273 (Mates, Marriages & Relationships)
WX Pg. 1161-1162 (Sex, Sexual Mores)
Dobson, James
16, 171, 319-320
Donahue, Phil
411
"Do not disturb" signs
173
"Doormat wives"
253, 424-425
"Double bind"
315
"Double whammy"
316
Dressing & undressing spouse
427
Drinking: See Alcohol
Drug abuse
436
Duchess of Windsor
525
E
Eating out
93
See also Romance
Echo game
448
Edison, Thomas A.
526
Einstein, Albert
8, 139
Eisenhower, Dwight
143
Eliot, Charles William
517
Emotional maturity
224-239
Emotional Maturity Rating Form
226-229
Emotional needs
203
Emotional stress
492
Emotions
257, 320, 351, 394
W 66, Pg. 1 "Keeping the Lid On"
Emotions words
445
Empathy
99, 204, 304, 327-328, 387
Encouragement
15-16, 35-36, 189, 252, 263-264,
283, 325-326, 341, 353, 378-380, 395, 501-502, 525, 526
D2, Pg.263,362-365
D3, Pg.200
D7, Pg.390
D8, Pg.75-76
T: Pg. 429-430
G: Pg.383: 444, 471
Pg.754: 52
Pg.1102: 11, 105
Pg.1236: 12, 13, 19, 30, 51, 54, 55, 60, 65,
66, 67, 68, 70, 71, 75, 95, 97, 99, 100,
101, 103,111, 122, 124, 142, 150, 234,
243, 249, 250, 262, 326, 333
Pg.1577: 144, 614, 615
HTL Pgs. 35, 95, 114
Enthusiasm
112, 121-123, 295
D1, Pg.333
D2, Pg.61-65,71
D3, Pg.454
D4, Pg.85-88,175-176,309-311
D6, Pg.137-138,174-177
D7, Pg.111-119,367-371,409
D8, Pg.439
T, Pg.351,431-437,462,812-814
DT1, Pg.99,181,302,303
DT2, Pg.174,187,330
DT3, Pg.259,290,339
Envy
162, 370
See also Jealousy
Equality
78-79
Erection, masculine
396, 472
difficulties
266-268
See also Impotence
Exercise
54-55, 293
D1, Pg.144-145
D3, Pg.64,150
D4, Pg.208
D6, Pg.322-323
T, Pg.407
W 50, Pg. 1 "Take a Walk"
W 182, Pg. 1 "Exercise without Exercising"
W 222, Pg. 1
See also Health & hygiene
Exhaustion
435
Expectations
104, 275
Experimental roles
453
Eyes
186, 205, 214, 304, 508
F
Failure: See Success & failure
Fair fighting rules
451-452
Faith & trust
16-17, 203
"Family friends"
366-367
Family, importance of
398
Family life
120
Fantasy questions
458
Father's Day
20-21, 23
"Fathering wives"
45-47
Fathers
33-40
Fatigue
156, 435, 492
Faultfinding
441
D2, Pg.514
See also Criticism & Gossip
Fear
150-151, 213-214, 232, 370
first-time jitters
216
of commitment
49
of communication
343-344
of criticism
60-61
of failure
518
of impotence
396
of openness
131, 239, 470
of pregnancy
297
of receiving advice
61
of rejection
510
sexual
213
Fear of Rejection: D3, Pg.285
Overcoming: T: Pg. 140-147, 253-259,
574-578, 730-731
G: Pg.383: 289
Pg.602: 132
Pg.673: 177
Pg.715: 44
Pg.771: 52
Pg.782: 30
Pg.1035: 10, 29, 85, 100, 104, 122, 129,
131,137, 140, 209, 217, 248, 249, 251,
253, 255,256, 261, 268, 275- 278, 280,
281,282, 283, 284, 285, 286, 289, 290,
291, 292,293, 295, 299, 305, 312, 334,
347, 348, 351,358, 361, 383, 398,
416, 417, 434
Pg.1142: 176
Pg.1418: 19
Pg.1422: 43
Pg.1433: 59
Pg.1508: 1, 2, 18, 33, 45-46, 57, 59, 61, 67,
71-72, 78, 83, 86, 91-92, 94, 132, 135,
136, 149, 154
Pg.1577: 326, 570, 638, 811
DT1, Pg.91,113,312
DT2, Pg.157
DT3, Pg.32,58,87
Worry: D2, Pg.580-581
D3, Pg.307-308
D4, Pg.33-34
D6, Pg.26-27
Feedback, giving & receiving
305, 314, 333, 446, 449
"Feeling word pictures"
126
Feelings
197, 303, 309-310, 454-455
Feelings man
405-407
Feelings woman
408
Feelings words
445
Female chauvinist pig
424
Female role
252-253
Female temperament
12, 33, 36, 62-64, 134, 166-167,
212-213, 252-258, 319-320, 351-354, 395-396, 421, 488, 504-505
See also Human Nature; Differences, male & female; Male temperament
Femininity
145-146, 424
Feminists
424
"Fiesta House"
175
Fighting: See Arguments
Filters, in listening
275
Finances
466, 486
Fire drills, marital
251
Fireside chats
174
First-stage love
419-420
Fitzgerald, Edward
436
Flexibility
237
Flight: See "Travelling"
Flirting
19, 54
"Floor," getting the
453-454
Flower hunt
174
Flowers, use in romance
173, 183
"Fogging"
449
Footwashing
300
Foreplay
493
See also Sex
Forgetfulness
413
Forgetting (forgiveness)
14, 504
Forgiveness
14, 31-32, 110, 119, 125,
153, 164, 198, 208, 262, 272, 293, 346-347, 356-357, 378, 381, 437, 464, 479, 500, 503-504, 525
D1, Pg.41-42,72-74
D2, Pg.13,130,138,322-323,337,401,546,550,586,
589
D3, Pg.257-265
D4, Pg.47,63-66,107-109,278-285,436
D5, Pg.34-38
D6, Pg.144
D7, Pg.60-68
D8, Pg.177-179
T: Pg. 372-375, 378, 525-527, 548, 691-694
G: Pg.114: 29, 56
Pg.122: 21
Pg.126: 3, 9, 24, 29, 33, 49, 51, 53
Pg.378: 10, 11, 12, 22
Pg.383: 70, 308, 420
Pg.486: 15
Pg.507: 393
Pg.580: 30
Pg.754: 44, 51
Pg.1131: 6, 10
Pg.1142: 124, 166
Pg.1170: 18, 20, 53, 78, 79, 81, 95,
126, 131, 132
Pg.1236: 4, 5, 7, 8, 20, 33, 62, 78, 107, 123,
130, 133, 136, 158, 159, 184, 185, 186,
187, 197, 222, 228, 254, 255, 256, 257,
258, 259, 260, 287, 290, 291, 295, 319, 323,344
Pg.1323: 161
Pg.1393: 1, 32, 65, 96
Pg.1433: 51, 124
Pg.1482: 43, 52
Pg.1508: 145
Pg.1577: 554, 614, 732, 767
DT1, Pg.4,36,111,149,156,208,292
DT2, Pg.7,48,86,118,149,200,225,369,507,512
DT3, Pg.97,177,191,204,212,220,222,253,296,
319, 322, 351
HTL Pgs. 5, 9
Form: "Pleasers"
444
"Foxs"
249
Fragrances: See Perfume & fragrances
Francis of Assisi, St.
64
Franklin, Benjamin
519
Freedom
159, 205
sexual
213-214
Frequency of intercourse: See Sex, frequency
Friendship
202-209, 234, 341, 345-350, 364-367, 437
"marital friendship"
66, 126
G: Pg.118: 4
Pg.602: 7, 311
Pg.754: 144
Pg.1165: 21
Pg.1167: 27
Pg.1170: 52, 53
Pg.1236: 6, 9, 10, 15, 40, 52, 82, 105, 109,
110, 115, 116, 134, 135, 178, 179, 180,
181, 182, 183, 188, 189, 190, 201,
204-217, 236, 247, 256, 278, 286, 300
Pg.1323: 334
Pg.1433: 13, 17, 25, 102, 167
Pg.1550: 27
Pg.1577: 137, 144, 213, 274, 428, 614, 735
W 123, Pg. 1 "Gift of Friendship"
Frigidity
296-298, 491
D5, Pg.31-33,330-333
See also Orgasm
Frustration
134, 232, 233
G: Pg.383: 327
Pg.507: 183
Pg.602: 283
Pg.1035: 74, 181, 343
Pg.1213: 25
Pg.1577: 118, 146, 255, 576, 673, 721
HTL Pg. 123
Futurising
415
G
Gabor, Eva
41
Gambling
436
See also Habits
Game playing
230
Game: Three wishes
176
"Garbage collecting"
450
Garfield, James
526
Generalisations
270, 381
Generosity: See Giving
Gentleness
105, 112
See also Love, Kindness & courtesy
Gifts
282, 362, 363, 490
Gilligan, Carole
469
Giving
149, 178, 326
Gladstone, William
527-528
T, Pg.189-190,361,806
Glenn, John & Annie
354-355
Gluttony: See Diet, Habits
Goals
3-4, 202, 288-289, 382, 477, 518-519
major-change goals
442
worksheet
443
D1, Pg.50-51,84,306-309,321-324,348-353,596
D2, Pg.115,134,170,201,291
D3, Pg.320-322,388,449-456
D5, Pg.151-156,269-280
D6, Pg.49-50,109-110,204
D8, Pg.284
DT1, Pg.7,58,74,133,155,170,337
DT2, Pg.16
DT3, Pg.80,160,276,277
T: Pg. 213-215, 812-814
G: Pgs. 1734-1737
Pg.383: 344
Pg.507: 306, 359, 403
Pg.790: 1, 2
Pg.813: 22, 34, 39
Pg.1035: 116, 237, 238
Pg.1118: 12
Pg.1123: 5, 36
Pg.1403: 2, 10
Pg.1407: 8
Pg.1422: 67, 80
Pg.1433: 186
Pg.1475: 18
Pg.1554: 17
Pg.1577: 36, 562
HTL Pgs. 8, 174
HTGTD Pgs. 6-13, 50, 56
Going out
490
Gossip: See Criticism & Gossip
Gothard, Bill
132
"Grabber"
469
Grace, Princess
348
Gratefulness
8-9, 102-103, 103-104, 116, 123, 522-523
Griffin, Merv
411
Grouchiness
517
Grudges
208
Guest, Edgar
179, 494
Guilt
210, 395, 473, 475
"Gunnysacking"
450
"Gunpowder words"
156
Gushing
198
H
Habits
41, 136, 154-155, 427, 442, 518, 519-520
D2, Pg.463,604
D3, Pg.288-293,328,345-350
D6, Pg.309
T: Pg. 727-736
G: Pg. 1121-1122
Pg.383: 332, 417
Pg.507: 75
Pg.602: 11
Pg.754: 36
Pg.1236: 26
Pg.1504: 35
Pg.1577: 317, 447, 559
DT1, Pg.1
HTL Pgs. 18, 44
HTGTD Pgs. 37, 59-60
Hair, greasy
357
"Hand in the dark" technique
264-265
Handicaps
40, 323, 502
D1, Pg.113-114,336-340
D3, Pg.1-8
D4, Pg.107-109
D6, Pg.61-66,272
D7, Pg.120-122,123-126
Handyman work
23-25, 494
Hannah (Biblical)
349
Happiness & Joy
75-76, 145-147, 341, 480, 528
D1, Pg.234-235,572-574
D2, Pg.2-3,324,422,633-634
D3, Pg.26,355-356
D4, Pg.48-51
D5, Pg.81-86,292-294
D8, Pg.342-343,354
T: Pg. 127, 376-379
DT1, Pg.38,126,187,221,303
DT2, Pg.138,236,435-437
DT3, Pg.44,45,59,137,162
G: Pg. 1123-1130
Pg.383: 77
Pg.490: 67
Pg.507: 286, 446, 465
Pg.580: 16, 89, 129
Pg.700: 104
Pg.1035: 90
Pg.1102: 49, 50, 110
Pg.1118: 21
Pg.1132: 12
Pg.1142: 182
Pg.1159: 54
Pg.1170: 122
Pg.1213: 33, 38
Pg.1236: 233, 322
Pg.1323: 178
Pg.1403: 13
Pg.1539: 1-13
Pg.1577: 466, 710, 760
See also Cheerfulness
"Hard Workers in Bed"
48-49
Harshness
271
"Having sex"
213
Hate
T: Pg. 330-334, 372-375, 711-716,730
G: Pg. 1131
Pg.126: 2, 62
Pg.378: 1
Pg.1167: 19, 32, 35
Pg.1236: 4, 255, 308
Pg.1433: 94
Hawthorne, Nathaniel
323
"Headship"
191-192
Health & Hygiene
54-55, 124, 132, 147, 209,
292-293, 339, 340, 357-358, 429, 493
Cleanliness: D1, Pg.228-230
Exercise: D1, Pg.144-145
D3, Pg.62-68
General references: D2, Pg.564-565,570
D4, Pg.189-190,315-316
D5, Pg.46-49,163-170,191
D6, Pg.26-27,309-329
D7, Pg.509-511
D8, Pg.148-150
Rest & sleep: D3, Pg.268
Sickness: D1, Pg.345-347
Stress: D2, Pg.484
T: Pg. 253, 401, 405-413, 620-624, 658
PX Pgs. 257-259
WX Pgs. 1104-1106
CC Vol. 3, Pg. 610-657
HH 2. HH 3, Pg. 388-393, 404-412.
HH 4, Pg. 476-510
See also Turn-offs & turn-ons
Hearing
definition of
155
selective
274-275
Heartbeats (as resource)
334
"Heavyweight"
469
"Hedgehogs"
248-249
Helpmate
193
Henpecked husbands
253
"Hit & run"
450
Hitting below the belt
450
Holy Spirit
64
Honesty & Openness
37, 49, 56-57, 59, 66, 69-
70, 88-89, 157, 164-165, 193-194, 197, 214, 217-218, 232, 238, 243, 259, 261-262, 266, 299, 328, 330, 342, 344, 367, 380, 394-395, 397, 427, 446, 465, 468-469, 470-472, 493-494, 499, 503, 512-513
D1, Pg.82-83,129-130,232-233,247-250,459-461,
575-578,598-601,602-605
D2, Pg.14,347,353-354,464,468,475,564-570,
586,591
D3, Pg.145,299-306,335-345,355-356,
402
D4, Pg.119-123,421-422
D7, Pg.24-26,29,82-85,153,197-198,202,210,
334-335,515,530-537,537-547,556,566
D8, Pg.182-185,307
T: Pg. 367-371, 506-508, 717-719
DT1, Pg.268,344
DT2, Pg.340,345,431,456-459,502
DT3, Pg.99,143,146
G: Pg. 1135-1140
Pg.126: 15
Pg.383: 268, 373, 415, 433, 436,467
Pg.507: 319
Pg.715: 9, 17
Pg.754: 46
Pg.1142: 168, 169
Pg.1165: 3, 20
Pg.1201: 15
Pg.1236: 238
Pg.1323: 141, 219, 375
Pg.1433: 22, 95, 152
Pg.1482: 9
Pg.1501: 12
Pg.1550: 42
Pg.1726: 1, 2, 7, 11, 18, 24
Pg.1738: 8
HTL Pgs. 108, 125
W 66, Pg. 1 "Keeping the Lid On"
"Honey-Do" List
122, 123
Horizontal communications
276
Horseback rides
174
Hostility
525
W 45, Pg. 1 "Fury Fends Off Friends"
See also Arguments; Anger
"Hound Dogs"
250
Housekeeping
23-25, 120, 142-143, 168-169,
426, 428, 493-494
"How Do I Love Thee?"
29, 94
Hugging
18, 33, 169, 526
T: Pg. 224-225
W 69, Pg. 1 "Hugs Are Magic"
W 126, Pg. 1 "Dr. Hug"
Human Nature
36, 62-64, 95-128, 97-98, 129-133,
135-143, 158-159, 171, 195, 199, 202, 210, 252-258, 291, 300, 301-302, 319-320, 331, 344, 351-354, 357-359, 368-369, 373, 394-398, 400, 410, 419-420, 438-439, 468, 469, 488
D1, Pg.37-39,593-597
D2, Pg.393,635
D4, Pg.80,339-341
D5, Pg.391-395
D6, Pg.13-15
D7, Pg.14-17,74,173-176,384
D8, Pg.24
DT1, Pg.150
DT3, Pg.118,225
G: Pg. 1141
Pg.114: 42
Pg.118: 6
Pg.126: 54
Pg.376: 3
Pg.383: 177
Pg.754: 13
Pg.1035: 284
Pg.1142: 65
Pg.1433: 32, 39, 45, 53, 76, 80, 84,
90, 93, 97, 100, 121, 140-141, 156, 176
Pg.1482: 47
Pg.1554: 3
Pg.1734: 29
W 46, Pg. 1 "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
W 77, Pg. 1 "Men in Love"
Human qualities, Feminine
145-147
Humility
129-130, 164-165, 372, 380, 504, 513
D1, Pg.41-42,116,232,459-461,490-493
D2, Pg.13,193-196,204,234,347,351,394,551,553,
555-556,564-570,592,598-607,638,641-642
D3, Pg.93-98,210-211,213,269,281,285-286,
309-311,345-350 415-416,418
D4, Pg.20,23,102-103,119-122,125-126,278-285
D5, Pg.114,177-181,197,242,367-369,386,392-395
D6, Pg.13-15,54-57,126-132,174-177,286,289-290
D7, Pg.2,35-36,41,70,74-75,93,184,188-189,
196-206,284-288,301-302,442-448,470,517-
518,524-526,566
D8, Pg.48-51,155-160,163-166,169-170,305
T: Pg. 74-78, 196-204, 266-274, 506-508,
537-550, 711-726, 730
DT1, Pg.114,142,256,315,324,330,333,350
DT2, Pg.71,158,345,470
DT3, Pg.16,47,170,194,195,255,293
G: Pg. 1142-1158
Pg.114: 9
Pg.126: 2, 7, 15, 31, 39, 43, 45
Pg.490: 85
Pg.507: 2, 111, 112, 136, 171, 238, 248,
409, 431
Pg.673: 37, 100
Pg.715: 3
Pg.754: 39
Pg.782: 21
Pg.1102: 97
Pg.1118: 2, 3, 5, 10, 17, 25, 29, 30
Pg.1123: 4, 46
Pg.1135: 7, 25, 27, 30
Pg.1159: 6
Pg.1167: 1, 16, 31
Pg.1202: 15
Pg.1213: 25
Pg.1236: 21, 151, 160, 386, 395
Pg.1323: 177, 391
Pg.1433: 6, 117, 152, 179, 191
Pg.1482: 1, 2, 11,
18-20, 22, 29, 35, 40, 45, 47, 55, 59
Pg.1504: 30, 55, 56
Pg.1554: 46
Pg.1560: 5
Pg.1565: 62
Pg.1577: 1, 116, 380, 442, 490, 831-2
Pg.1730: 8
Pg.1738: 24
See also Pride
Humour
29, 41, 128, 216, 290, 496
D4, Pg.119-123
W 56, Pg. 1
T, Pg.737-740
Hurt
441-442
Husbands
checklist
279-280
ideal
280, 497
studying
259
types of
253-254
Hygiene: See Health & hygiene
I
"I intend" statements
449
"I love you"
15, 33, 130, 324, 394, 417, 421, 490
ways to say
18-32, 184
"I messages"
99, 117-118, 305-308, 447-448
"I told you so"
23, 100
"I would like" statements
448-449
Ideal husband
280, 497
Ideal woman
135
"If only"
377
Ignoring
451
Immaturity
239, 370-371
"Immigrants"
185-186
Impotence
296, 396
temporary
213, 216
D5, Pg.32,178-181,228
"I.M. De Head"
191
In-laws
23, 189, 366-367, 436
Inattentiveness
30
Independence (as virtue)
511
Indifference
6, 11, 29, 96, 140
G: Pg.122: 8
Pg.486: 55
Pg.700: 90
Pg.813: 17, 35, 41
Pg.1141: 2
Pg.1236: 23, 253
Pg.1323: 100, 206, 207, 234, 356
Pg.1726: 5
Pg.1747: 36
Indirect approach (appreciation)
119
Infatuation
171, 219-220, 223
Inferiority complex
239, 518
See also Self-esteem
Infidelity
68-70, 243, 415-416, 486
D1, Pg.41-42
Ingratitude
8-9
Inhibitions
47
D5, Pg.32-33,330-333,365-367
See also Freedom
Initiative
235
Inner Conversations
153-154
Insight
485
Inspiration: See Enthusiasm
Intelligence
432
Intercourse: See Sex
Interpreting
307
See also Assumptions
Interrupting
30, 156, 162, 245, 450
Intimacy
49, 50, 60, 190, 197, 198-199, 230,
351-352, 398, 434, 439, 457-459, 468, 469
W 207, Pg. 1 "Intimacy"
Intimate Distance
186
Introspection
62
Introverts
422
Intuition, woman's
98
Intuitive differences
98, 368-369
See also Differences, male & female
"Is He a Wrong Number" Quiz
422-423
"Is He Right for Me" checklist
423
Italian night
183
J
Jealousy
370, 423-425, 425, 513-514
D1, Pg.114
D2, Pg.565,592,605-606,620-621,624-628
D3, Pg.299-306,387-407,421-437
D4, Pg.149-150
D5, Pg.114,367-375
D7, Pg.180,513
DT2, Pg.460-463
T: Pg. 165-172, 325-334, 348, 731, 791-801
G: Pg. 1167-1169
Pg.126: 7, 49, 54, 58, 61, 62
Pg.754: 139
Pg.1142: 122
Pg.1393: 44, 48, 91
Pg.1504: 55, 56
Pg.1734: 21
See also Envy
"Jerks"
189
Jesus
17, 18, 64, 95, 109, 201, 203, 205, 207,
208, 278, 279, 283, 309, 330, 346-347, 367, 388, 528
See also Relation to the Lord
Job description, marital
65
Joint Script
247-248
Jokes: See Humour
Jones, Charles
379
Jowett, Benjamin
511
"Joyful Noise"
58
Judging
197, 276
Jumping to conclusions
208
See also Assumptions
Justifying yourself
42, 59, 238, 372, 451, 499
D2, Pg.608-613
D3, Pg.257-265
D7, Pg.549,551
D8, Pg.270-272,307-308
G: Pg. 1201
Pg.378: 33
See also Pride
K
Kassorla, Dr. Irene
513
Keaton, Diane
43
Keller, Helen
522
Kennedy, John F.
15
Kennedy, Rose
16
Kernberg, Dr. Otto
468
Kindness & courtesy
18-32, 77, 133, 160,
183-184, 230, 233, 281, 326, 353, 365, 374-375, 465, 496-497, 498-499, 501-502, 515, 523
D1, Pg.205-206,212
D2, Pg.172,206
D3, Pg.80-84,350-354
D4, Pg.130-135,182-183,371
D5, Pg.30-31,208
D7, Pg.496-500
G: Pg.126: 33
Pg.383: 9
Pg.754: 14, 15, 112
Pg.1118: 16
Pg.1170: 152
Pg.1202: 37, 40
Pg.1236: 20, 22, 25, 28-30, 32, 35, 39-40, 42,
43, 45-46, 50, 53, 59, 60, 67, 68, 73, 75,
77, 79, 80, 83, 87, 90-91, 98, 103, 104,
121, 128, 144, 152, 163-169, 179, 191,
198, 220, 239, 241, 243, 252, 263, 266,
282, 283, 298, 299, 309-310, 332, 336,
337, 348, 372
Pg.1323: 114
Pg.1393: 66
Pg.1433: 8, 26, 33, 34, 35,
65, 147,169, 192
Pg.1495: 23
Pg.1550: 12
Pg.1558: 14
Pg.1730: 2
HTL Pgs. 10, 26, 37-38, 45, 120-121
W 207, Pg. 1 "Intimacy"
KM: Manners
See also Consideration
Kinsey, Dr.
341
Kissing
19, 47, 315
D5, Pg.47
D8, Pg.417
T: Pg. 225-226
See also Affection; Touching
"Kitchen sink" fight
450
Kitchen work
168-169
See also Housekeeping
Klagsbrun, Francine
342
Klein, Dr. Henrietta
523
Kubie, Lawrence
237
L
"Labelling"
283, 450
Lack of desire
473
See also Sex
Landers, Ann
4, 10, 169, 284, 438-439
Laramore, Vivien Yeiser
284
"Late Bloomers"
425
Lateness
36, 190
Lauer, Jeanette & Robert
341
Laziness
494
D2, Pg.72,171,219
D7, Pg.32-36,404-406
T: Pg. 602-606
G: Pg.122: 8
Pg.126: 65
Pg.486: 40, 55
Pg.673: 174
Pg.1141: 6, 9
Pg.1202: 21
Pg.1411: 16
Pg.1422: 74
Leadership, masculine
498
Learning
235
Lederer, William
507
Lee, Ivy
2
Leman, Kevin
439
Lemmon, Jack
344
Lewis, C.S.
514
"Lifetime lovers"
432-433
Lincoln, Abraham
142, 321, 525
Lincoln, Sarah
149
Lists: See Charts & lists
Listening
186, 244, 260-261, 273-278, 322
active
304-308, 446
how to
93-94, 109, 113, 139, 152-153,
156-157, 175, 204, 231, 242, 245, 270, 303-308, 372, 381, 462, 483
importance of
12, 61-62, 64, 204,
286, 329, 350, 471-472, 525
obstacles
155-156
selective
274-275
to children
16
with positive regard
332
D1, Pg.523
D4, Pg.243
D8, Pg.5
G: Pg.114: 61
Pg.126: 16, 23
Pg.383: 107, 484
Pg.576: 12, 16
Pg.602: 266, 267, 311,
401, 405, 408, 418, 419, 420, 426, 430
Pg.813: 28
Pg.1213: 18
Pg.1433: 50
Pg.1550: 7, 8
HTL Pgs. 11-12, 22, 37, 62-63, 76, 94, 127
W 198, Pg. 1
Listing options
453
Little things
114, 479-480
Logic, masculine
123
Loneliness
49, 197, 370
D1, Pg.516-518
D3, Pg.373-376
T: Pg. 87-92, 217, 227
G: Pg. 1213-1235
Pg.507: 132
Pg.1236: 243
Pg.1323: 238
Pg.1433: 183
Pg.1495: 15
Pg.1577: 101, 682, 683, 828
Longfellow
143
Love
6, 11, 15, 18-32, 33,
40, 61-62, 63-64, 85-86, 106, 134, 158, 170-184, 196, 219-243, 292, 296, 319-323, 324-330, 341-343, 351, 421-433, 466, 478, 488-497, 507-515, 516, 528
at first sight
67
celestial
134-135
recognising
326-327
test of
133
triggers
416-417
types of
370
unconditional
203, 324, 526
D1, Pg.8-9,47,58-59,74-75,84,87-88,89-90,90-91,
94-95,487-489,581-588,595-596
D2, Pg.3,71,74,205,207,209,214,215,217,325,337,
339,340-346,362-367,476,529-531,540,547,
558,573,619-628
D3, Pg.51,199-206,309-317,347-350,397-398,401
D4, Pg.63-67,278-285
D5, Pg.2-5,29-31,290-294
D6, Pg.22-25,31-33,338-339
D7, Pg.15,60-68,72-73,74,150-152,344-346,524
D8, Pg.9,12-15,198,256-257,596-604,619
T: Pg. 87-92, 224-239, 367-379, 419-430,
537-550, 791-801
DT1, Pg.2,34,142,150,156,182,183,208,260,314,322
DT2, Pg.37,130,158,172,192,199,283,317,365
DT3, Pg.6,18,122,126,151,193,200,203,207,213,
215, 294,308,317
G: Pg. 1236-1322
Pg.124: 5
Pg.126: 1, 24, 33
Pg.383: 21, 28, 68, 248, 273, 281,
293, 295, 332, 370, 408, 431, 450
Pg.507: 12, 274, 318, 320-323, 350
Pg.602: 140, 154
Pg.754: 141
Pg.1035: 359, 365
Pg.1142: 164, 165
Pg.1167: 25, 27, 28
Pg.1170: 4, 52, 75
Pg.1213: 6, 8, 12, 15, 28, 29, 31, 34, 38
Pg.1323: 91, 112, 232, 310
Pg.1393: 15, 22, 30
Pg.1433: 1, 7, 16, 79, 86, 87
Pg.1495: 6, 9
Pg.1577: 144, 434, 540, 614-615,
645, 739
W 50, Pg. 1 "Question of Love"
W 56, Pg. 1
W 207, Pg. 1 "Intimacy"
W 223, Pg. 1 "Learned in Kindergarten"
"Love day"
457
Love language
400-401
Love language self-test
408-409
Love notes & letters
19, 29, 119,
172, 177-182, 242, 286, 349, 360, 491, 524
Love prescriptions
242
Love slaves
350
Loving your wife, 100 ways
389-391
Loyalty
526
Lush, Jean
436
Lust
296
M
Mace, David & Vera
257, 284
Machismo
209, 394
"Magpies"
249
Make-up
28, 494-495
"Making love"
213
Making Up
31-32
See also Apologising; Forgiveness
Male chauvinism
79
Male dependence upon women
332
Male Role
7, 143-144, 498
Male sexual fears
213
Male Temperament
12, 33, 62-64, 95-128,
129-133, 135-143, 166-167, 209, 210, 212-213, 319-320, 344, 373, 394-398, 400, 410, 419-420, 504-505, 511, 523
D7, Pg.16-17
W 46, Pg. 1 "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
W 77, Pg. 1 "Men in Love"
Malnutrition, cause of impotency
396
Man Worship
208
Manipulation
522
Manners
281, 326, 465, 496-497
D2, Pg.172
G: Pg.1159: 15
KM: Manners
See also Kindness & courtesy
Mannes, Marya
359
Manson, Charles
16
Marasmus
198
Margrethe II, Queen
7
Marital satisfaction questionnaire
92
Marital scripts
247-248, 453
Marital survey
26
Markman, Howard
341
Marriage
benefits of
240-241
broken
505-506
checklist
466
contract
454-456
counselling
440-441
friendship
364-367
killers
435-436
preparation
39
Problems
440-460
Quiz
369-370
Scriptural Roles
461
D1, Pg.559-560
D3, Pg.210-212,313-317
D4, Pg.119-126,367-372,375,391
D5, Pg.4,29-34
D6, Pg.303-305
D7, Pg.14-17
T: Pg. 376-379, 537-550, 791-801
DT2, Pg.14,93,476-487
DT3, Pg.62
G: Pg. 1393-1402
Pg.118: 12, 21
Pg.383: 198, 424, 483
Pg.754: 130, 133
Pg.1159: 30, 52
Pg.1213: 16, 17, 23, 24, 25, 31, 43
Pg.1236: 40, 101, 139, 159, 161, 202, 237,
280, 352, 353, 367, 368, 374, 384-385
Pg.1403: 9
Pg.1411: 11
Pg.1433: 6, 91, 112
Pg.1495: 21, 23
Pg.1550: 38
Pg.1577: 17, 144
PX Pgs. 271-273
HTL Pgs. 76, 100
WX Pgs. 1161-1162 (Sex, Marriage)
W 56, Pg. 1
See also Divorce, Priorities
"Married People"
342
Masculinity
132, 139, 394-398
Massages
216
Masters & Johnson
200
Masturbation
D1, Pg.214
D2, Pg.560,566
D3, Pg.117
D5, Pg.321-333
D8, Pg.613-614
See also Sex
Materialism
168
Maternal instinct
319
Maturity
52, 158-159, 256-257, 273, 465-466, 495
building
231-239
emotional maturity
219, 224-239
D3, Pg.385-388
G: Pg.754: 18
Pg.1142: 145
Pg.1167: 16
Pg.1236: 291
Pg.1407: 4
Pg.1554: 13, 14
Pg.1577: 753, 777, 778
MP: "Wisdom & Wise Speech"
BT, Pg. 63
"Mauler"
358
Mehrabian, Dr. A.
205
Meninger, Dr. Karl
324
Mentally undressing people
53
"Mind reading"
450
Mirroring
409-412
Misinterpretations
81, 307
See also Assumptions
Mistakes
17, 38
Mixed feelings
235
"Moles"
249-250
"Mommy wives"
253
"Mom's day in"
37-38
Money management
435
Money: See Finances
Monologing
450
Monotony
293, 473-474, 524
Mood, setting
172-175
Moods
161, 353-354, 503
Moody, D.L.
346
Moon walk
174
Moore, Dudley
52
Mother's Day
23
"Mothering husbands"
45-47
Mothers
526-527
D1, Pg.31-34
D8, Pg.129-130
T: Pg. 414-418
G: Pg.383: 123, 128, 241, 273, 275,
276, 277, 279, 280, 281, 286, 287, 288,
296,305, 309, 316, 321, 322, 325, 337,
338, 347,348, 413, 457, 458, 459, 470,
488, 495-504
Pg.1236: 42, 387, 394
Pg.1323: 47
Pg.1540: 28
Motivation
101-114, 121-122, 122, 203, 236, 523
T: Pg. 281-285
W 70, Pg. 1 "Getting to Top"
Music, use in romance
173, 176, 215
Mutual topic finding
449
N
Nagging
4-5, 108, 138, 152, 165, 236,
248, 257-258, 271, 387, 389, 519-520, 528
D1, Pg.212
D2, Pg.204
D3, Pg.334,416
W 94, Pg. 1 "Criticism: Giving/Receiving"
W 198, Pg. 1
W 232, Pg. 1
See also Criticism & gossip
Napping
519
W 69, Pg. 1 "The Benefits of Napping"
W 96, Pg. 1 "Art of Catnapping"
W 131, Pg. 1
Narramore, Dr. Clyde
202-203
Nash, Ogden
463
Nature trot
174
Neatness
238
Needs
feminine
351-353, 371
masculine
115
Negativeness
3-4, 103, 110, 154, 342,
378-379, 443, 463, 480-481, 517, 521
D6, Pg.143-145
D7, Pg.191
DT1, Pg.161,209,272
See also Positiveness
Negotiation, marital
454-456
Newlyweds
D2, Pg.562
D5, Pg.33
Nicholi, Dr.
434
Nicknames
harmful
271, 282
loving
40, 412
Nightgowns
429
"No"
472, 526
Non-senders
245
"None of These Diseases"
132
Nonverbal communication
29, 110, 186-187, 304-305
Nudity
D1, Pg.175-176
D2, Pg.4,107-109,368,402
D5, Pg.290
D8, Pg.607-610
T, Pg.221-222,707
Nutritional stress
492
O
O'Heeron, Robin
209
Obedience
144
Obesity: See Diet
Observing
156
Obstacles, to listening
155-156
Old Age
273-274, 487, 518
D2, Pg.374-376
D7, Pg.126-132
T: Pg. 812-814
DT2, Pg.489
DT3, Pg.28
G: Pg. 1403-1406
Pg.124: 18
Pg.383: 26, 149, 333
Pg.813: 15
Pg.1159: 67
Pg.1433: 101
Pg.1565: 55
Pg.1577: 117, 156, 235, 341, 492,
632, 650, 726, 808
Pg.1747: 70
W 48, Pg. 1 "Age Doesn't Matter in Love"
One-to-one time
230-231, 243
Open-ended questions
449
"Open Up"
157
Openness: See Honesty & Openness
Opinions vs. feelings
310
Opposites, in marriage
88, 129
Optimism
513
Organisation
2-4, 428, 489, 493-494, 518-519
DT1, Pg.362
G: Pg. 1407-1408
Pg.790: 4
Pg.1422: 68, 69, 70, 71
HTL Pg. 323
HTGTD Pg. 26-49
Orgasm
48, 340, 341, 459, 491, 493, 524
faking orgasm
398, 472
D5, Pg.31-32,321-333
See also Sex; Frigidity
Osborne, Dr. Cecil
368-369
"Outroofing"
14
Over-generalisation
270, 451
Overcommitment
435
Overfastidiousness
165
Overkill
450
Overloading
316, 262
Overnight Honeymoons
34
"Oversexed"
211
Oxenham, John
272
"Oxygen of Intimacy"
457
P
Papini
41
Parents
33-40, 526-527
friendship with children
366
possessiveness
348
See also Children
Parker, Theodore
338
Parking (romance)
176
Pascal
17, 41
Passion
106, 370, 468
Passive-aggressive behaviour
77, 450
Past
441
Past, avoiding
270, 441, 484
Patience
237-238, 283, 327, 372, 479-480
D1, Pg.197-198,381-384,498
D2, Pg.141-142, 203-204,485, 497, 499, 523, 527,
544,550
D4, Pg.11,47,80-82,161-162,280-281,300
D6, Pg.62-66,118,305
D7, Pg.10-14,389
D8, Pg.453
DT1, Pg.36,144,211,288,328
DT2, Pg.348
DT3, Pg.15,63,133,180,188,246,338
G: Pg. 1411
Pg.114: 14, 19, 34, 61
Pg.126: 43, 65
Pg.383: 125, 367
Pg.602: 43, 63, 241, 254
Pg.673: 186
Pg.1035: 2, 19, 161-162, 164, 165, 235,
304, 367, 377, 382, 414
Pg.1213: 17
Pg.1422: 63
Pg.1501: 22
Pg.1508: 143
Pg.1557: 5
Pg.1565: 69, 70
Pg.1577: 40, 110, 268, 348, 396, 490, 680
HTL Pg. 23, 62, 92, 137
Paul, Apostle
117, 340, 383, 465
Peace
104
Peale, Mrs. Norman Vincent
259
"Peanuts"
259-260
Peattie, Donald Culross
265
Peer pressure
234
Penis
210-211
Penn, William
177, 519
Pennebaker, James
209
Perfectionism
38, 143, 164, 165, 225, 257-258
D2, Pg.502
D6, Pg.338
Perfume & fragrances
215, 339, 474
Perseverance
238
D1, Pg.103-105,197-198,494-496,496-498
D2, Pg.34,133-135,626
D3, Pg.24
D4, Pg.7-10,24-25,161-162
D5, Pg.34
D6, Pg.61-66,85-86,339
T, Pg.130,466,603-604
G: Pg.126: 65
Pg.602: 43
Pg.813: 34, 35
Pg.1035: 166, 312
Pg.1118: 31
Pg.1202: 6
Pg.1422: 24
Pg.1433: 104, 104
Pg.1554: 15, 17, 25
Pg.1577: 10, 35, 125, 138, 142, 190,
396, 406, 413, 468, 487, 514, 516,518,
533, 536, 537, 548, 555, 558, 565, 576,
588, 591, 595, 598, 616, 632, 635, 657,
789, 794, 801, 836
Pg.1734: 6
HTL Pgs. 124-125
HTGTD Pg. 29
Persistence
102
Personal distance
187
Petty grievances
272
"Phantom lovers"
48
Phobias
D3, Pg.143,363-364
T, Pg.259
Physical abuse
451
Physical mirroring
411
Picnics
174
Picture, of spouse
19
Pierce, Jan
463
Piercy, Marge
469
Planning
2-4, 235, 489, 518-519
D2, Pg.479
D4, Pg.80-82
See also Organisation
Plato
41
Playfulness
40-41
"Playing Lawyer"
451
"Pleasers"
443
Pleasure
210, 213-214
D1, Pg.234-235
T, Pg.215,222-223
G: Pg.126: 1
Pg.1123: 42, 51, 52, 53
DT3, Pg.4,59,66,162,166
Poems for love letters
178-182
Poetry, writing
360
Politeness: See Kindness & Courtesy
Popenoe, Paul
219
Porch swings
183
Positive Regard
332
Positiveness
3-4, 23, 26-27, 103, 110,
111, 146-147, 154, 159-160, 283-284, 286, 378-379, 443, 463, 480, 517, 518, 519, 521, 525
D1, Pg.212,385-387,499-501,510,556,572-574
D2, Pg.29,46-49,362-363,366,503,598-600
D3, Pg.132-135,308,362-365
D4, Pg.89-96,135
D5, Pg.51,81-86
D6, Pg.143-145
D8, Pg.455
DT1, Pg.209,272
DT3, Pg.134,158,236
G: Pg. 1416-1417
Pg.580: 21, 82, 85, 86, 92, 103, 130
Pg.754: 50, 57
Pg.813: 42
Pg.1035: 18, 247, 303, 396, 405
Pg.1236: 67, 81
Pg.1323: 304
Pg.1393: 88
Pg.1433: 2, 93, 122
Pg.1501: 24
Pg.1577: 4, 14, 44, 45, 49, 59, 105,
171, 172, 193, 286, 367, 374, 375, 382,
383, 389, 447, 474, 511, 515, 524, 529,
530, 534, 544, 550, 562, 667
Pg.1734: 42
HTL Pgs. 13, 39, 95-97
Possessiveness
423-425
T: Pg. 791-801
Potential
17, 152-153, 517
Pow-wows
313-314
Power grab test
27-28
Power struggles
310-311, 454
Practicality
194
Praise
103, 119, 207, 209, 283, 378-380
Prayer
27, 32, 130, 153, 282, 286, 366, 506, 518
spouse's
282
with mate
361
Preferences: Spouse
285
Pregnancy
effect on marriage
429-430
fear of
297
Premature conclusions
275
Premature ejaculation
49, 213, 268, 296
Pressure
131
Prestige
454
Prickly heat
357
Pride
441-442
Masculine
139-141, 281, 394
Prima donnas
495
Priorities
2, 39, 195, 281, 286-287, 428, 519
In work: D1, Pg.424-427
D2, Pg.478
In relationships: D1, Pg.516-518, 624-627
D2, Pg.140, 539-541, 571-573
D3, Pg.50-51, 366-384, 431-438
D4, Pg.123-124
D5, Pg.283-287, 292-294
D7, 473
Privacy
20, 37, 88-89, 427, 500
Problems
marital
59-64, 429-431, 505-506
physical
203
Procrastination
238
G: Pg.1422: 9-10,19-20,27, 29-30,32, 34-37
Pg.1554: 22
HTL Pg. 183
HTGTD Pgs. 19-22, 49
See also Redeem the Time
Promises
234
Promptness
36, 190
Provisional trust
242
Pseudo-frigidity
296-298
Public distance
187
Punctuality
36, 190
D1, Pg.362
D3, Pg.341
D5, Pg.41-43,208-209
Pushiness: See Bossiness
Put-down questions
451
"Puzzle" approach
117
Q
Quantifying wants
449
Queen of England, parable of
497
Questions
144, 205, 276, 354, 458, 525
Quickies
90
Quiet spirit
105
Quizzes & tests:
Emotional maturity rating form
226-229
How much do you know about spouse
285
Love language self test
408-409
Love test for husbands
133
Marital satisfaction questionnaire
92
Marital strengths & weaknesses
369-370
Quiz for husbands
279-280
Quiz for wives
107-108
Romantic attraction questionnaire
222-223
See also Charts & lists
R
Rain, Walking in
175
Rapport
188
Rasputin
508
Reading interests, Male
281
Reagan, Ronald
491
Realism
236
Reassurance
395
Rebellion
feminine
143-144
masculine
137
Redeeming the time
2, 36, 428, 493-494
D1, Pg.323,474,607-608
D2, Pg.110,147-148,293,302-303,333,387,430-431
D3, Pg.58,87,249-250,288-293,326-334,341
D4, Pg.138,152-154
D5, Pg.41-43,65-68,183-185,208-209,240-242
D6, Pg.123-124
D8, Pg.228-229,560
DT1, Pg.341
DT2, Pg.59,94,167
DT3, Pg.17,147,333,365
G: Pg.507: 201
Pg.771: 38, 39
Pg.1202: 43
Pg.1236: 309
Pg.1323: 46, 62
Pg.1407: 2
Pg.1508: 22
Pg.1554: 34
HTGTD Pgs. 6-25
HTL Pg. 323
See also Procrastination
Redford, Robert
507
Reflecting, in conversation
277
Reflective listening
156
Rehearsing responses
275
Rejection
454
Relation to the Lord
17, 64, 153, 169, 178, 195, 201,
287, 330, 361, 506, 527
Relationship, definition of
345
Relationships, problem types
423-425
Relations with Others
T: Pg. 87-92, 367-371, 376-379, 537-550,
607-614, 802-805, 824
D1, Pg.70-74,83,201-206,212
D2, Pg.172,339-354,363-367,515,521,523,525,
549-556,564-570,586-591,619-628
D3, Pg.20-21,50-51,210-212,309-311,366-384,
401,438-448
D4, Pg.63-66,105-109,130-135,154-155,243,
278-285,367-372
D5, Pg.74-77,290-294,337-346,391-399
D6, Pg.338-339
D7, Pg.24-26,29-31,71,111-119,173-176,194-195,
206-210,344-346,383-386
DT2, Pg.155,345,346,502,503
DT3, Pg.90,122,134,158,182,191,213,222,236,294
G: Pgs. 1433-1473
Pg.114: 29
Pg.118: 18
Pg.376: 6
Pg.377: 6
Pg.383: 471
Pg.754: 61, 130, 132, 135
Pg.1035: 392
Pg.1097: 4
Pg.1102: 11
Pg.1118: 10, 23, 28
Pg.1123: 3, 20, 26, 29
Pg.1135: 16, 34
Pg.1142: 18, 45, 80, 101, 136, 143,
145
Pg.1159: 2, 5
Pg.1213: 5, 6
Pg.1236: 2, 34, 45, 78, 81, 90, 105, 125, 148,
166, 176, 197, 282, 294
Pg.1393: 1, 8, 29, 30
Pg.1411: 15
Pg.1482: 7, 41
Pg.1495: 21, 23
Pg.1504: 8
Pg.1540: 27
Pg.1550: 3, 9, 22, 27-29, 42, 43, 46, 47,
48
Pg.1565: 61, 69
Pg.1577: 521, 620
Pg.1728: 1, 6, 7, 9
Relaxing
508
Relaxing technique
377
Reliability
238
Remaking your spouse
87-88, 115
Remarriage
251
Repairs, house
360, 494
"Repent," definition
378
Repetition
in conversation
277
to reinforce love
417
Resentment
32, 132, 136, 208, 248-251, 295, 297
D7, Pg.442-449
Reserve
29, 140, 245, 278, 343-344, 422
Respect
37, 365
Responsibility
208
D3, Pg.412-413
D4, Pg.207-208
G: Pg.507: 115
Pg.1118: 24
HTL Pgs. 124-125
Responsiveness
125
Reuben, Dr. David
10, 328, 514, 523
Revenge
44-45, 322-323, 485
G: Pg.378: 1
Pg.1131: 1, 2, 3
Reverence
6
Revolving method of communication
386
Reward contract
455-456
Ridicule: See Belittling
Ring, Wedding
20
Rituals
182-183, 288
Roadblocks (communication)
307, 518
Roles
52, 77-78, 394, 484
feminine
193
masculine
7, 143-144
W 66, Pg. 1 "Keeping the Lid On"
Romance
11, 39, 160, 170-184, 292, 352,
358, 359-363, 417-419, 474, 489-490, 501, 507-515
Romantic attraction
220-223
Romantic Attraction Questionnaire
222-223
Romantic love
67-68, 219
Romantic virgins
221
Roosevelt, Theodore
39, 245
Rostopovich, Mstislav
323
Rough Hands
358
Rules of arguing: See Arguments, rules for
Rules of togetherness
225, 229-230
Rules of War
355-356
"Ruling out the speaker"
275
Runaway Wives
254
Russell, Anna
516
Ruth, Book of
345
Ruts
518
S
Sacrifice
321
Sadism
502
Salt principle
113, 118, 388-389
Salvation
17, 203, 330, 527-528
D1, Pg.16,22-24,37,53,109-112,271-274,363-366,
443-445,524,546,563,606
D2, Pg.5,9,43,51,160,195,593,639
D3, Pg.69-79
D6, Pg.27-31,294-297
D8, Pg.6,15,30-31,105-106,116-119,125,341-358,
372-379,419-422,423-434,455,459,473,489,
497,604,619-620
T: Pg. 1-16, 21-25, 35, 70-73, 79-86, 123-135, 173,
196-204, 215, 228-243, 275-280, 321-324,
401, 420-421, 570-573, 579-583, 588, 619,
648, 672, 783-790, 819
DT1, Pg.8,13,21,29,59,65,184,234,284,308,354
DT2, Pg.27,43,51,60,66,79,118,239,274,325,361,
391,396,410,437,509-519
DT3, Pg.8,12,31,38,41,72,85,97,123,132,137,142,
154,164,166,169,171,174,177,189,220,255,291,
296,311,322,361
G: Pg.126: 2, 45, 49, 51-54, 59, 64
Pg.383: 29, 55, 116, 143-144,
352
Pg.483: 11
Pg.490: 69-70, 82
Pg.673: 13
Pg.771: 7, 54
Pg.1116: 6, 25
Pg.1123: 7, 30, 34
Pg.1213: 19, 20, 21
Pg.1236: 129
Pg.1412: 12, 19, 22, 23
Pg.1422: 30, 31
Pg.1482: 39
Pg.1504: 45, 62
Pg.1540: 17
Pg.1557: 4
Pg.1577: 494, 773
Pg.1747: 8
Sample
36, 37, 122, 367, 386, 484
"Sandwich" approach
117
Sangster, Margaret
258
Sarcasm
190, 451
See also Belittling; Criticism & gossip
Satir, Dr. Virginia
490
Saturday morning out
183
"Say-Ask" statements
450
Scapegoats
309
"Scarlet Letter"
323
Schedules (flexibility)
124
Schulz, Charles
259
Schwab, Charles
2
Scolding
276
Scorekeeping
452
Scratchy chin
357
Scripts, Marital
247-248, 453
Second stage love
420
Security, Need for
351
Seduction
57-58, 459
Selectivity
274-275
Self-confidence
214, 508
Self-consciousness
55
T: Pg. 140-147
Self-control
237, 395
Self-disclosure
449
See also Honesty & openness
Self-esteem
151-152, 203, 282-284, 319, 325
Self-identity
311
Self-pity
27, 151, 208-209, 245
Self-reliance
236
Self-righteousness
138, 164, 207-208, 249, 302
D1, Pg.41-42,86,113-114,274,338
D2, Pg.50,193,196,341,585,603-604,608-613
D3, Pg.29,93-98,147-149,161,165,187-188,
345-350,385-388
D4, Pg.65-66,94,103,183-184
D5, Pg.36-37,54,346-347,365-367
D6, Pg.55-57,63-64
D7, Pg.77,197,199,260,283-287,302,442-448,
460-462,524-526
D8, Pg.49-51,155-189,427,594-595
T: Pg. 70-78, 99, 266-280, 711-722, 730
DT1, Pg.4,9,208,292
DT2, Pg.37,43,71,76,127,259,323
DT3, Pg.12,47,54,94,135,191,253,293,296,329
G: Pgs. 1482-1490
Pg.126: 2, 7, 9, 43, 51, 53
Pg.486: 56
Pg.490: 73
Pg.507: 255, 440
Pg.754: 5, 31, 42, 43, 49, 68, 81,
82, 107, 108, 132, 140
Pg.1123: 4
Pg.1142: 41, 46, 85, 173, 174, 177, 179
Pg.1165: 1, 2, 16, 17
Pg.1170: 27, 109
Pg.1236: 57, 131, 210
Pg.1393: 20, 92
Pg.1433: 31, 59
Self talk
153-154
Selfishness/unselfishness
6, 64, 78, 79, 87-88,
91, 106, 192, 196, 238, 254, 279, 280-281, 321-323, 324, 326, 354, 365, 371, 373, 398, 436, 462-463, 482, 498-499, 500-501, 512
D1, Pg.8-9,74-75,89-90,114-118,150
D2, Pg.140,172,336,422,573,627-628
D3, Pg.26-31,371,444
D4, Pg.20,367-372
D5, Pg.156-158,233-242,247-250,286-287,292-294
D6, Pg.75-78
D7, Pg.22-26,262,264,497,520
D8, Pg.536-537
T: Pg. 253, 589-593, 758-770, 791-801, 817
DT1, Pg.64,120,126
DT3, Pg.183,185,226,240,245,306
G: Pgs. 1730-1733
Pg.126: 29, 41, 47, 54
Pg.507: 95, 441, 452, 455, 457, 463
Pg.602: 160
Pg.754: 139
Pg.802: 25, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37
Pg.1102: 2, 13, 41, 42, 45, 59, 67, 73, 78,
79, 81, 83, 84, 90, 91, 93, 96, 106, 108
Pg.1123: 26, 31, 46, 50
Pg.1142: 40, 182, 183
Pg.1167: 17, 18, 32, 33, 34, 38
Pg.1213: 5, 6, 14, 25, 33, 38, 41
Pg.1236: 1, 89, 120, 127, 193, 268, 356
Pg.1323: 125, 126, 199, 221, 379
Pg.1393: 8, 16, 83, 84, 85, 86, 91
Pg.1433: 109
Pg.1504: 31
Pg.1565: 61
Pg.1577: 64, 434, 479, 479, 490
Sense of smell, feminine
358
Sensitivity
98-100, 103, 199, 243, 286, 351
feminine
95, 97, 104, 320
masculine
139, 210-211
D1, Pg.71
D2, Pg.340-341
D3, Pg.212,267-269,414-420
D7, Pg.519,529
D8, Pg.78,166-167,269
BT, Pg. 72
Sensory overload
206
Sensuality
467
Sentiment
509
Separations
84, 516
See also Divorce
"Serendipity Times"
16
"Set-up," the
315
Sex
9-10, 10-12, 25-26, 42-58, 64,
89-90, 124, 166-168, 200, 210-211, 212-218, 219-
220, 230, 241, 266-269, 292, 296-299, 324-330, 338, 339-341, 357-359, 359, 368, 394, 396, 422, 428, 459, 464-465, 466, 467-474, 486, 491-493, 504-505, 523-524
alibis
42, 55, 57, 201, 311
anchors
412-413
bargaining
45, 167, 429
competitiveness
50-52
concentration
218
differences, male/female
264
education
200
fears
213, 216
Freedom
213-214
frequency of
43, 50-52, 167, 213,
220, 341, 429, 459, 473, 491, 505
"oversexed"
211
preparation
492, 493
problems
467
scheduling
53
sexiness
214-216, 467, 508-509
"sexing out"
57
sex maniac, female
424
sexual gridlock
468-469
sexual seesaw
44-45
techniques
47-48
thinking sexually
53-54
"undersexed"
211
Cleanliness: D1, Pg.230
D6, Pg.326
Freedom: D1, Pg.8-9,213-215
D2, Pg.2-5,107-109,402,405,407
D5, Pg.364-367
General references: D5, Pg.290-294
D6, Pg.32-33
D7, Pg.74
D8, Pg.599-604,605-621
T, Pg.216-239,377
DT1, Pg.299
DT2, Pg.67,196,272
Health: D6, Pg.320-321
Honesty: D1, Pg.459-461
D2, Pg.564-570
How to: D5, Pg.31-33
Male/Female needs: D7, Pg.14-17
Masturbation: D5, Pg.321-333
Perversions: D4, Pg.370
Pornography: D1, Pg.175-176
Problems: D2, Pg.571-573
D4, Pg.368-372
D6, Pg.245-252,338-339
Questions about: D7, Pg.273
Relationships: D2, Pg.619-628
D3, Pg.379-383
Unselfishness/Selfishness: D1, Pg.114-118
T: Pg. 216-239, 377
G: Pgs. 1495-1500
Pg.126: 1
Pg.1142: 164, 168, 169
Pg.1159: 59
Pg.1213: 26
Pg.1236: 139, 377, 388, 392, 397
Pg.1393: 89
WX Pg. 1161-1162
W 81, Pg. 15
Shakespeare, William
12, 14, 181
"Short fuse"
317
Shouting
199
Shyness
472-473
D1, Pg.231-233,531
D2, Pg.64,351-353,404,490-499
D3, Pg.286-287,335-345
D4, Pg.421
D5, Pg.177-181
D7, Pg.111-112
D8, Pg.436-437
T: Pg. 53-58, 140-147, 431-437, 458-463
G: Pg.126: 55, 56, 61
Pg.715: 8,12, 18, 24, 29, 53,54
Pg.1035: 191, 261, 264, 279, 299,
312, 369
Pg.1142: 92
Pg.1323: 19, 93,169,176,196,242,256,292
Pg.1433: 167
Pg.1577: 788, 811
Pg.1726: 21
DT1, Pg.84,335
DT2, Pg.26
Sickness
132
Silence
12, 13, 49, 500
D2, Pg.353,448,450
D4, Pg.181
D8, Pg.447
G: Pg.118: 10, 16, 26
Pg.754: 35, 75, 116
Pg.1159: 10
Pg.1236: 190
Pg.1393: 37, 92
Pg.1433: 64, 81
Pg.1508: 76, 81, 113
Pg.1550: 13-17, 19, 34, 36, 45,
54
Pg.1554: 23
"Silent Messages"
205
Silent Partners
49
Simon, Carly
436
Sincerity
99, 238, 373, 387
Singer, Isaac Bashevis
515
Sloppiness
237
Smiles
214
D3, Pg.355-356
D4, Pg.319
G: Pg. 1539
Pg.754: 145
Pg.1035: 90, 271
Pg.1236: 12, 18, 92, 141, 232, 246, 269-274,
292, 293, 338
Pg.1323: 168
Pg.1416: 12, 17
Pg.1433: 116
Pg.1554: 27
Pg.1577: 116, 669, 695, 711, 748
Smith, Dr. Lendon
430
Smoking
520
"Snow White"
423
Social distance
187
Solomon, King
3, 152, 517
Song of Solomon
200
Song: "That's the Way..."
436
"Space"
70, 80, 310, 454
"Space invaders"
436
Spanking children
16, 153
Speaking for your spouse
451
Special days
348, 501
See also Birthdays
Speech
262, 509
D3, Pg.308
D7, Pg.179-180,367-371,470-471
T: Pg. 537-553, 802-805
G: Pgs. 1550-1553
Pg.124: 6
Pg.486: 42
Pg.490: 24-25, 58
Pg.507: 367
Pg.602: 297
Pg.795: 93
Pg.813: 24
Pg.1035: 24, 299
Pg.1142: 26, 69, 156
Pg.1159: 18
Pg.1202: 35, 39
Pg.1323: 24, 27, 43, 44, 72, 86, 103, 107,
108, 109, 128, 138, 150, 151, 153, 154,
179, 182, 243, 258, 298, 308, 310
Pg.1433: 10, 38, 42, 46, 56,
60, 68,
69, 82, 88, 138, 139, 159
Pg.1577: 811
HTL
See also Communication
"Speed-O"
469
Spinster
80
Spiritual Needs
203-204, 466
Spontaneity
231
Sports fans
519
Spouse's prayer
282
Spouse's preferences (Chart)
172
Springtime flower hunt
174
Spurgeon, Charles
27
Stagnation
511
"Stalemate"
528
Stargazing
174-175
"State of the Union" Message
313-314
Stekel
210
"Stickler," the
316
Stoner, Peter
330
"Straight to the points"
469
Strengths & weaknesses
190-191
Stress
131, 376, 384, 492
D1, Pg.1
D3, Pg.62
D5, Pg.122-124,153
Stubbornness
281
D2, Pg.34,215,220,337
D7, Pg.301
D8, Pg.308-310
Studd, C.T.
346
Submission
7, 110, 125, 193, 194, 264, 300
See also Yieldedness
Substance abuse: See Alcohol; Drug abuse
Success & failure
208, 232, 436, 518-519
D1, Pg.103-105,224-227,300-303,427
D2, Pg.31-32,56,72-73,135,137-139,165,168,171,
194,290,394,546-547,584,587,598-600,603
D3, Pg.311-312
D4, Pg.16,180,43-46,97-101
D5, Pg.9-10,125,177-181,209-210,269-280
D6, Pg.54-57,122-123
D7, Pg.25
D8, Pg.167-170,554
T, Pg.196-204,720-726
DT1, Pg.9,35,124,333
DT3, Pg.146,223,231,233,261,347,356
DT2, Pg.104
G: Pg. 1554-1556
Pg.122: 19
Pg.126: 17, 34, 45, 65
Pg.378: 26
Pg.383: 136
Pg.507: 33, 243, 358, 360, 389, 390,405
Pg.673: 119
Pg.715: 14
Pg.754: 7
Pg.795: 47
Pg.813: 14, 17
Pg.1035: 248, 280
Pg.1102: 33, 109
Pg.1123: 35
Pg.1142: 35, 86-88, 125-126,150, 70-71
Pg.1422: 50
Pg.1475: 42
Pg.1482: 31, 35
Pg.1501: 5, 6, 7, 8, 11, 25
Pg.1577: 255, 468, 507, 519, 533,
537, 548, 554, 640, 667, 692, 728,751-
755, 783, 789, 791, 801, 814, 818
Pg.1734: 24
HTL Pgs. 12, 137, 329
HTGTD Pgs. 18-19, 28
Superior Women
425
Superiority
207-208
Survey, Marital
26
Swindoll, Charles
323
Sympathy
141-142, 376, 410, 411
D3, Pg.5
D8, Pg.180
G: Pg.1159: 17
Pg.1236: 170, 173, 346
Pg.1393: 15
T
Tact
G: Pg.126: 42
Pg.1035: 78
Pg.1142: 9
Pg.1393: 64, 67
Pg.1433: 15, 43, 52, 61, 63,
72,
111, 189, 190, 192
Pg.1550: 1, 3, 4, 31, 32
MP: "Wisdom & Wise Speech"
Talkativeness
162
Talking Back
273
Talking down
276
Talking to yourself
153-154
Talking up
276
Teamwork
229
Tears
13, 503
Teasing
394, 496
Teens
39, 349-350
Television
527
Temper, short
317
T: Pg. 607-614
See also Anger
Temperament
97-98, 301-302, 438-439
female
171, 331, 357-359, 368-369
male
259, 331-332, 357-359, 368-369, 400
See also Human Nature
Ten Boom, Corrie
347
Tenderness
145, 169, 438, 503
Tension
132
Terman, Lewis
280
Territorial aggression
312
Tests: See Quizzes & tests
Testosterone
98
Thankfulness
8-9, 26-27, 115, 130, 209, 381, 522-523
T: Pg. 224, 251-252, 480-487
DT1, Pg.120,244
DT2, Pg.87,292
DT3, Pg.194
G: Pg.126: 8
Pg.383: 403
Pg.507: 150
Pg.580: 130
Pg.602: 268, 384, 434
Pg.1123: 15
Pg.1142: 123
Pg.1323: 159
Pg.1403: 8
Pg.1508: 144
Pg.1577: 2, 57, 90, 105, 172, 181,
374, 398, 466, 501, 506, 540, 571, 687
Threatening
451
Three wishes (Game)
176
Time pressures
334, 457
Time, Redeem the: See Redeeming the time
Timing, in conversation
156
Tit-for-tat contract
455
Tolerance
5, 367, 479-480
Tolstoy, Count Leo
136-138
Tone of voice
34-35, 246-247, 356, 411-412
See also Communication, nonverbal
Tongue: See Speech
"Touch Base Time"
458
Touching
28, 33, 45, 169, 175,
198, 206, 216-217, 247, 458, 469, 509
W 52, Pg. 1 "Tender Loving Care"
W 71, Pg. 13 "Try a Little Tenderness"
See also Affection
Tournier, Dr. Paul
204, 261
Tradition, romance of
182-183
Transparency
285
"Travelling"
271, 335
Trials & Tests
38, 202, 206, 244, 340, 353-354, 386
Trigger words
275
See also Gunpowder words
Triple increase technique
92-93
Trite remarks
30
Trobisch, Walter
171
Trust
37, 74-75, 242, 277-278, 311,
328, 342, 395-396, 410
Turn-offs & turn-ons
357-359
Twain, Mark
325
"Twenty-five thousand dollar plan"
2
Twin beds
55-56
Type A personality
401
Type Two relationships
239
U
Ugliness
517-518
Ulcers, Bleeding
132
"Undersexed"
51, 211
Understanding
13, 59, 115, 141-142, 151-152,
186, 206, 252, 259, 273-274, 277, 376, 462
D2, Pg.364
G: Pg.383: 467, 482
Pg.507: 428, 436
Pg.754: 59, 135
Pg.1142: 124
Pg.1213: 8
Pg.1236: 14, 28, 71, 95, 148
Pg.1323: 316, 386
Pg.1558: 14
Pg.1577: 629
HTL Pgs. 10, 22, 34-35
Undressing each other
58
Undressing people mentally
53
Unity
20, 91, 126, 127, 229,
237, 263, 288, 290, 327, 328-330, 385, 475
D1, Pg.267,370,529,537
D2, Pg.199,202,212,220,345,348,505
D4, Pg.255-256
D5, Pg.159-163,283-287,345-346,369-375
D6, Pg.60,145,152-153,200-202,284-287,298
D7, Pg.55-60,81,94-110,217-218,340,485-496
D8, Pg.302,573
T, Pg.148-154,758-763
DT1, Pg.52,105,138,250,279
DT2, Pg.14,69,103,171,179,253,499
DT3, Pg.90,228,282,350
G: Pgs. 1728-1729
Pg.126: 41
Pg.602: 274
Pg.700: 15
Pg.754: 74, 139
Pg.1236: 155, 200, 240, 251, 288
Pg.1323: 112
Pg.1393: 71
Pg.1577: 41, 439, 759
Unnecessary roughness
271
Unsportsmanlike conduct
270
V
Vaginismus
268-269
Valentine's Day
36
Value conflicts
336
Van Wagenen, Lola
507
VanDellen, T.R.
525
VanGogh, Vincent
423
Vanton, Monte
434-435
Variety
125
Venting
414
Vertical communications
276
Vices, overcoming
T: Pg. 727-736
See also Habits, Change
Vicious cycles
248
Violence, TV
527
Visual man
401-403
Visual woman
407
Vows, wedding
346
Vulnerability
239, 343-344, 509
W
Walking out on arguments
271, 335
Walster, Elaine
508
Wandering eyes
357
Warmth
99, 387
Warren, Earl
521
Warren, Neil
434
Waterman, Nixon
187
Waving goodbye to spouse
524
Ways to keep your lover, Bessell's
240
Weaknesses
189
Wedding ring
20
Wedding vows
346
"While we're on the subject"
431
Whitman, Walt
471
Will power
516-517
D2, Pg.12
W 70, Pg. 1 "Getting to Top"
Wilson, W. Heartsill
528
Wish List
248
Women
36, 83-84, 134, 193-194, 210-211,
212-218, 252-258, 296-299, 331
D2, Pg.619,620
D3, Pg.99-100,210-212
D4, Pg.149-152
D5, Pg.55-56,78,288-294,382-386,386-391
D7, Pg.15-17,175,265
G: Pg.124: 2, 17
Pg.126: 42
Pg.715: 41
Pg.1159: 21, 22, 58, 59
Pg.1236: 351, 394
Pg.1393: 3, 15, 18, 31, 77
Pg.1550: 1, 38
W 77, Pg. 1 "Men in Love"
See also Female temperament; Human Nature
Women's Lib
424, 426
D1, Pg.31
D3, Pg.211
D7, Pg.301,303,304,316
T: Pg. 702, 752
Word of God
reading
527
use of in counselling
205-206, 207
Children: D1, Pg.138-139,554-556
D2, Pg.200-201
General references: D1, Pg.141,535
D2, Pg.152,156,238-243,270,642,646,648
D4, Pg.166
D5, Pg.6-9,181-185,222,356-359,359-361
D6, Pg.139-142
D8, Pg.122,393,402-418,452,456-459
T, Pg.5-6,17-20,52,63-64,177-190,
241-243,250,350-354,386-387,402-404,
421-423,809,836
DT1, Pg.6,50,56,62,92,93,97,108,121,122,134,
152,153,177,214,232,240,245, 291,301,
310,334
DT2, Pg.10,38,61,82,117,126,147,163,184,
195,197,212,224,263,267,271,305,310,
314, 319,320,530,531
DT3, Pg.3,5,21,22,37,50,67,82,92,95,102,
136,161,165,179,208,244,250,256,283,
305,310,342,357
Importance of: D1, Pg.4-8,134-137,110-111,300-303
D2, Pg.167,178,369-370,540
D4, Pg.20,75-79,365-366,384-389
D5, Pg.38-39,318-321
D6, Pg.39-43,133-139
D8, Pg.31-34,56-57,237,288-290,303-304
Memory: D3, Pg.123,226-233
D6, Pg.143-144
D8, Pg.380-390
Power of: D1, Pg.526
D2, Pg.582
D4, Pg.235
D5, Pg.19
D7, Pg.202,412-418
Studying: D1, Pg.519-521
D2, Pg.532-535
D4, Pg.226
D5, Pg.43-45,68-70,91-93,274-275,311-312
D6, Pg.48-49,91
D8, Pg.67-70,407-411
Will of God: D1, Pg.146
Witnessing: D5, Pg.233-242,250-253
D6, Pg.252-257
T: Pg. 5-6, 17-20, 52, 63-64, 177-190, 241-243,
250, 350-354, 386-387, 402-404, 421-423,
809, 836
G: Pgs. 673-699
Words
describing feelings
445
importance of
489
Worksheet: Goals
443
See also Charts & lists
Worry
49, 150-151, 395, 508
D1, Pg.479
D2, Pg.141,162,224,327,580,598,631,634
D3, Pg.41-43,48-49,307-308,416
D4, Pg.32-33,40-41,272
D6, Pg.26-27,309
D7, Pg.511
D8, Pg.122-125,326
DT1, Pg.54,91,151,312,353
T: Pg. 253-259, 358, 730-731
G: Pg.507: 361
Pg.580: 85
Pg.602: 64, 83, 100, 399
Pg.1035: 16, 28, 30, 33, 38, 39, 59, 85, 107,
119, 123, 131, 145, 149,160,163,178,
179,199, 204, 205, 216, 246, 250, 258-
260, 266-270, 280, 287, 293, 294, 296,
300,302,307-311, 313-325, 327-329, 331,
332,335,338-342, 345-347, 349, 382, 388-
389, 407, 410, 434-435
Pg.1123: 1
Pg.1418: 11, 19
Pg.1422: 28, 52, 83
Pg.1508: 63, 64, 69, 85, 141, 149
Pg.1577: 437, 479, 497, 741, 772
Wright, Norman
204
"Wrong Number" Quiz
422-423
X
XYZ formula
447
Y
Yard work
494
Yieldedness
7-8, 7-8, 22, 146,
193, 264, 293, 319-323, 461, 521-522
D1, Pg.80,95-97,114-118,146
D2, Pg.71,142,162,267,309,311,334-338,379-388,
518,592-593,596-597,601-607,625
D3, Pg.9-12,48-49,279-283,324-325,376,399,
410-411,421-430
D4, Pg.233-239,268,295-297
D6, Pg.71,271
D7, Pg.176,255,265,442
D8, Pg.250-252,253-281,291-321,329-330,551
DT1, Pg.66,94,224,257,274,327,330,357
DT2, Pg.139,148,256,291,340
DT3, Pg.11,16,64,86,98,120,159,232
T: Pg. 66, 136-139, 723-726, 821
G: Pg.126: 45
Pg.483: 8
Pg.507: 1, 4, 7, 8, 19, 34, 39, 48, 69, 71, 75,
77, 84, 90, 95, 99,141,143,146-149,153
154, 183, 184, 186, 188, 190, 206,211,
212, 214, 220, 223, 227, 231, 232, 235,
240-242, 251, 260, 272, 288, 290, 308,
326, 327, 349, 352, 362, 364, 386, 394,
401, 407, 412, 414-416, 431, 439, 440,
445-446, 449, 452-455, 457, 459, 461,
463-464, 466, 468-469
Pg.602: 32, 309, 417, 436, 437
Pg.673: 60
Pg.715: 17
Pg.1035: 8, 35, 63, 88, 200, 414
Pg.1097: 2
Pg.1142: 30, 93, 165, 166, 178
Pg.1170: 78
Pg.1213: 23, 24
Pg.1393: 87
Pg.1407: 4
Pg.1411: 7
Pg.1412: 3
Pg.1433: 128
Pg.1482: 48
Pg.1577: 77, 97, 123, 128, 490, 566,
705, 793, 804
See also Submission
"You are bad" statements
451
"You are good" statements
449
"You messages"
99, 117-118, 306-308, 387, 447-448
"You should" statements
451