STUDY HELPS & INDEX
(Index entries in bold indicate the presence of study helps)
NUMBERS

1 Corinthians 13         158, 366, 526

A

Abortion
         D1, Pg.31,123
         D3, Pg.85
         D5, Pg.325
         T: Pgs. 44, 418, 562, 702-703, 752
         G: Pg.126: 20
                  Pg.383: 236, 411
                  Pg.802: 79
         PX Pg. 321
         WX Pgs. 1054-1055
Acceptance       4-5, 115, 130-131, 135-138,
140-141, 204, 230, 233, 262-263, 302-303, 499, 519, 520
         in conversation  155
Accurate empathy         304
Achilles Heel    450
Acting out anger         451
Active listening         304-308, 446
Adapting         7-8, 521-522
Admiration       5-6, 96, 107, 111, 115, 138-139, 141,
263-264, 520-521
Adultery         68-69, 486
See also Infidelity
Advertising      168
Advice
         giving   12, 61, 366
         in counselling   205
         seeking from mate        108-109, 112
Affairs: See Adultery; Infidelity
Affection        15, 21, 33, 44, 45, 47, 64, 68, 106, 121,
124, 145-146, 169, 175, 198, 201, 216-217, 218, 230, 233, 247, 255-256, 288, 293, 438, 457, 465, 470, 473, 526
         D2, Pg. 573
         T: Pgs. 224-227
         G: Pg.383: 81, 273, 308, 319, 332, 450
                  Pg.1236: 139, 150, 342, 360
                  Pg.1393: 52
                  Pg.1495: 9, 11, 15, 17, 24, 26
         HTL Pgs. 99 & 127
         W 50, Pg. 1 "Question of Love"
         W 52, Pg. 1 "Tender Loving Care"
         W 56, Pg. 1
         W 71, Pg. 13 "Tenderness"
         W 126, Pg. 1 "Dr. Hug"
See also Touching
Agape    196
Aggressiveness, male     300
Aims: See Goals
Alcohol  396, 436
Alcoholics       315-316
Aldrich, Joe     366
Alibis, sexual   42, 55, 57, 201
Allen, Woody     43
Anchoring        412-413
Angelic qualities        135
Anger    13-14, 34-35, 45, 76-77, 89-90, 99, 100,
131, 147-148, 153, 199, 232, 262, 335-338, 370, 377-378, 384, 441-442, 451, 525
         D1, Pg. 381-384
         D2, Pg. 203
         D7, Pg. 558
         T: Pgs. 537-550, 607-614
         G: Pgs. 114-117
                  Pg.126: 39
                  Pg.486: 69
                  Pg.754: 9
                  Pg.1167: 33
                  Pg.1236: 35, 255
                  Pg.1433: 124
         HTL Pg. 18-19
         W 45, Pg. 1 "Fury Fends Off Friends"
See also Arguments, Patience
Angry senders    245-246
"Annie Hall"     43
Anniversaries    25, 348, 501
Anxiety: See Worry
Apathy, sexual   473
Apologising      31-32, 35, 130, 164, 496
See also Forgiveness
Appearance       9-10, 26-28, 55, 111, 135, 145-146,
339, 352, 494-495, 508-509, 517-518     
         D1, Pg.432
         D2, Pg.555-556
         DT1, Pg.319
         G: Pgs. 124-125
                  Pg.126: 42
                  Pg.720: 146
                  Pg.1577: 715, 811
Appleton, William        220
Appreciation     21-23, 35-36, 37,
103, 107, 110, 119, 137-138, 152, 159-161, 189, 192, 233, 252-258, 263-264, 294-295, 298, 325-326, 340-341, 353, 362, 378-380, 386, 417, 443-444, 499, 502, 520-521, 522-523
         D1, Pg.205-206,212,594
         D4, Pg.133
         D5, Pg.30-31
         G: Pg.383: 9, 119, 280, 294, 332, 426, 444
                  Pg.754: 26, 130
                  Pg.1102: 11, 105
                  Pg.1202: 24
                  Pg.1213: 8
                  Pg.1236: 55, 67, 81, 99, 100, 102,                111, 113,                          137, 142, 229, 234,237, 242, 244, 249, 275, 301, 303, 304, 306, 310, 328, 333
                  Pg.1393: 9, 24, 69
                  Pg.1433: 18, 19, 77, 122, 128, 133,
                           137, 161, 164,165, 191
                  Pg.1550: 9, 11, 28
         HTL, pages 10, 18, 35, 41,100, 105, 125, 326
         W 60, Pg. 1 "Applause!"
See also Kindness & Courtesy, Encouragement
Approval         230, 255
Arguments        30-32, 31-32, 34-35,
86, 108, 153, 199, 231, 235, 242, 257-258, 270-272, 286, 303, 310, 329, 335-338, 342, 354-356, 364-365, 372, 376, 383, 414-415, 422, 427-428, 430-431, 450-454, 463, 481-485, 501, 521-522
         Rules for        34-35, 162-163, 270-272,
355-356, 451-452, 463-464, 483-484
         D1, Pg.524
         D3, Pg.294-298,345-350
         D5, Pg.16-20
         D6, Pg.290,292-293
         D8, Pg.7
         T: Pgs. 537-550
         G: Pgs. 118-119
                  Pg.114: 33, 37, 38, 39, 41, 54, 55,58
                  Pg.383: 424
                  Pg.486: 69
                  Pg.576: 13
                  Pg.1123: 29
                  Pg.1142: 45
                  Pg.1236: 2
                  Pg.1323: 272, 326
                  Pg.1393: 92
                  Pg.1433: 74, 75, 82, 94, 123, 125,
                           126, 128, 136,137, 151, 162, 182, 188
                  Pg.1550: 17
                  Pg.1726: 3, 13
                  Pg.1728: 4, 6
         HTL, Pgs. 23, 38, 84, 59-164, 330
See also Anger, Humility & Pride
Asking for things        148-149
Asking questions         229, 471
Assumptions      80-81, 208, 225, 451
Assurance        203
Atmosphere (home)        426-427
Attention        230, 233, 255-256
Attitudes        3-5, 193, 378, 511, 517, 524
         G: Pg.118: 1
                  Pg.486: 76
                  Pg.580: 84
                  Pg.1123: 35
                  Pg.1236: 84, 125, 382
Attractiveness   367, 468
Auditory man     403-405
Auditory woman   407-408
Availability     339-340
Awareness        309

B

Babies, effect on marriage       34
Bachelors        80
"Back burner" box        443
Bacon, Lord      286
Bad breath       357
Bailey, Franklin C.      462
Bargaining in marriage   248, 452
See also Contract, marriage
Bath Oil         339
See also Perfumes & fragrances
Bathroom strategy        426-427
Baths    218
"Bears"  250
Beauty: See Appearance
Belittling       107, 109, 140, 165, 210-211, 271, 276, 291
         D7, Pg.150-152
See also Criticism & Gossip
Bessell's rules of togetherness  225, 229-230
Bessell's ways to keep your lover        240
Betcher, Dr. R. William  40-41
Birth Control
         D1, Pg.157
         D5, Pg.325
         T: Pgs. 702-703, 807
See also Abortion
Birthdays        183, 256, 348
Birthmarks       40
See also Deformities
Bitterness       132, 208, 347-348, 523
         D2, Pg.504,565
         D3, Pg.257-265
         D7, Pg.526
         D8, Pg.275
         T: Pgs. 372-375, 730, 797-798
         DT1, Pg.315
Blackmailing     451
Blame/blaming    276, 413, 441, 485-486
Blood sugar, low         492
Body language    205
See also Nonverbal communication
Body odor        357
See also Health & hygiene
Boldness: See Shyness
Boredom  27, 524
Bossiness, female        13, 27, 166, 295
Brackman, Jacob  436
Bradley, Amanda  209
Brain, Human     517
Brandt, Dr. Henry        132, 387
"Brat," the      358
Breakdowns       206
Breakfast in bed         360, 491
Breast infections        340
Brown, Charlie   260
Browning, Elizabeth Barrett      29, 94
Bryan, William Jennings  322
Bubble bath      174
"Bugging"        316
Butterfly & the buffalo  97, 104-105
Byrd, Admiral    492
Byron, Lord      220

C

Caldwell, Taylor         321
Calmness         104
Campfire (romance)       174
Caring   278
Carter, Rosalie  202
Caruso, Enrico   15
Casals, Pablo    509
Caution  236
Ceiling people   239
Celestial love   134-135
Chanel, Coco     468
Change   194, 293, 314, 320, 343, 368, 442, 478, 495
         D1, Pg.50-51,593
         D2, Pg.629-648
         D3, Pg.17,41-43,324-325,424
         D4, Pg.192-193,309,344,395
         D5, Pg.74-75,152,155,269-280,300-307
         D6, Pg.81,101-105,109-110,283
         D7, Pg.29,143-144,270-272,329-333,564
         D8, Pg.77,200-203,432
         T: Pg. 823
         G: Pg. 376
                  Pg.383: 145, 146
                  Pg.1142: 187
                  Pg.1433: 23
                  Pg.1482: 5
                  Pg.1577: 8
         HTL Pgs. 4,9,44
         DT1, Pg.1,145,212
         DT2, Pg.16,46
Character analysis       450
Character (symbol), special      183
Charts & lists:
         100 ways to love your wife       389-391
         121 things to avoid with wife    391-393
         63 ways to build maturity        231-239
         Auditory man, characteristics    403-405
         Bessell's rules of togetherness  225, 229-230
         Bessell's ways to keep your lover        240
         Better listening, 10 commandments        156-157
         Blueprint for loving     432-433
         Common masculine faults  136
         Communication guidelines         153, 318
         Conversation starters    175-176
         Couple request index     455
         Crazymakers      315-317
         Danger signs in relationships    432
         Depression, symptoms of  376
         Differences, male/female         97-98, 301, 351-354,
368-369
         Feelings man, characteristics    405-407
         Feelings words   445
         Goals worksheets         443
         Health fundamentals      147
         Helpful messages         448-450
         How to treat a woman in public   502
         Hurtful messages         450-451
         Ideal husband, qualities of      280
         Ideal woman, qualities of        432
         Kitchen "alphabet"       168-169
         Levels of communication  196-197
         Love notes, ideas for    178-182
         Love prescriptions       242-243
         Marriage check-up        466
         "Nevers"         502-503
         "Pleaser" form   444
         Reward contract  455
         Roadblocks to good communication         307-308
         Romance, ideas for       174-175, 493
         Rules for fighting       34-35, 270-272, 355-356
         Secrets of a happy marriage      341-343
         Sex discussion questions         469
         Spouse's preferences     172
         Sympathy, how to give    142
         Tit-for-tat contract     455
         Turn-ons & turn-offs     357-359
         Visual man, characteristics      401-403
         Ways husbands hurt their wives   96
         Ways to improve self-esteem      283-284
         Ways to make wife feel special   360-363
         Ways to say "I love you"         18-32, 184
         What's romantic, what's not      418
         What's sexy, what's not  418
         Women who have difficulty w/ relationships       423-425
See also Quizzes & Tests
Chauvinism, female       424
Chauvinism, male         79
Checklists: See Charts & lists
Cheerfulness     20, 26-27, 146-147
         G: Pg.580: 62, 63
                  Pg.813: 21
                  Pg.1035: 342
                  Pg.1102: 9
                  Pg.1123: 12
                  Pg.1236: 19, 141, 233, 311, 338
                  Pg.1416: 6, 8, 9, 10
                  Pg.1433: 116
                  Pg.1554: 27
                  Pg.1577: 90, 116, 375, 383, 390, 398,
                           486, 505, 529, 544, 546, 566, 579, 664, 673, 719, 748, 785, 795
See also Happiness & joy
Childlikeness    147-148, 487, 509
Children         14-17, 21, 287-288, 349, 526-527
         choice & decisions       273
         discipline       16, 21, 132, 527
         impact on marriage       78, 398, 429-430, 486-487
         marriage check-up        466
         new babies       34
         self-esteem      203, 282-284
Chivalry: See Kindness & courtesy
Choice & Decision-making         71, 127, 234, 290,
383-385, 421
"Christian Freedom for Women"    257
Christlikeness   367
Churchill, Sir Winston   320, 513
Clarity  156, 245, 447
Cleanliness      358
"Clearing"       334
Cliches  196
Climax: See Orgasm
Coercion, on spouse      71
Cologne  173, 359
See also Perfumes & fragrances
"Colonisers"     185-186
Comfort  116, 202-209, 291
Commitment in marriage   190, 191, 200, 238, 328,
346, 365, 441, 460, 477, 514-515
         fear of  49
Communication    1, 12-14, 28-32, 33, 59-64, 93-94,
96, 98-100, 110, 115-116, 119, 130-131, 150-153, 161-162, 175, 185-188, 196-197, 199, 204-208, 209, 245-251, 252, 254, 255, 258, 259-264, 273-278, 284-286, 300-318, 322, 328, 328-330, 340, 341-343, 343-344, 345-350, 354-357, 364-367, 368-393, 386, 397, 399-400, 444-458, 458-459, 461-462, 466, 470, 495, 500, 524-525
         in lovemaking    217-218, 298, 467
         need for         352
         nonverbal        29, 110, 186-187, 304-305
         problems         307
         Honesty, Sex: D2, Pg.564-570,591
         Relations w/Others: D2, Pg.339-354
                  D3, Pg.342-345
                  T: Pg. 367-371
                  HTL Pgs. 6, 44, 61, 81
                  W 85, Pg. 1
                  W 198, Pg. 1
         Sensitivity: D3, Pg.414-420
See also Listening
Companion wives  253
Companionship    240-241, 351
"Companionship love"     370
Comparisons
         children         14
         spouse   323, 503
Compassion       340
Competitiveness  86, 189, 235, 319
         sexual   50-52
Complaining      108
See also Thankfulness
Compliments      21-23, 35, 152, 325-326,
340-341, 495, 500-501, 502, 505, 521
See also Appreciation; Kindness & courtesy
Compromise (marital)     72-74, 94, 248, 452, 522
Concern  205
Conciseness      286
Confession       209
Confidence       236, 467
Conflicts: See Arguments
Confrontation    231
Consideration    18-32, 105, 233, 234, 256, 374-375
         D3, Pg.308,345-354,397-400,402
         D4, Pg.182-183
         HTL Pgs. 4, 25
         W 46, Pg. 1: "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
         KM: Manners
See also Kindness & courtesy
Constructiveness         336
Contentment      123
Contingency plans        3
Contract, marriage       454-456
Contradiction    295
Conversation     1, 60, 152, 246-247, 285, 329
         conversation starters    175-176
         inner conversations      153-154
         D3, Pg.308
See also Communication
Cooking  168-169, 216, 427
Coolidge, Calvin         6
Cooperation      237
Core symbol      247
Correction, accepting & receiving        117-119, 380-381
Costumes         9-10, 524
Counselling     
         friends  202-209
         with spouse      144, 329
Couple Request Index     455
Courage  102
Courtesans       215
Courtesy: See Kindness & courtesy
Courtship: See Romance
Cowper, William  496
Crazymakers      315-318
Creativity       236, 351
Credit (financial)       435
Crises   206, 251, 519
Criticism & Gossip       30, 76, 91, 96,
98, 107, 109, 116, 141, 164-165, 190, 197, 204, 210-211, 257-258, 271, 291, 379, 387-388, 465, 485-486, 496, 502-503, 516, 525
         asking for criticism     449
         fear of criticism        60-61
         D2, Pg.237-243,341,500-516,550,611-612
         D3, Pg.211,387,445,447
         D6, Pg.143,144
         D7, Pg.150-152,442,445,448
         D8, Pg.179-182
         T: Pg. 349, 551-556, 741-747, 802-805
         G: Pg. 754-770
                  Pg.114: 32
                  Pg.122: 13
                  Pg.126: 7, 43, 54, 58
                  Pg.383: 178, 225, 375, 427
                  Pg.490: 44, 84
                  Pg.602: 16, 372
                  Pg.1102: 2
                  Pg.1118: 19
                  Pg.1135: 9
                  Pg.1141: 4
                  Pg.1142: 18, 162
                  Pg.1159: 5, 21, 22
                  Pg.1167: 13, 24
                  Pg.1202: 37
                  Pg.1236: 81, 96, 130, 202, 231, 266-267,
                           289, 334
                  Pg.1393: 53, 63, 88
                  Pg.1422: 43
                  Pg.1433: 7, 17, 22, 67, 82, 118, 120, 124,
                           131, 132, 142, 146, 150, 158, 161, 182
                  Pg.1482: 14, 23-25,
                           33, 38
                  Pg.1501: 16
                  Pg.1550: 10, 26, 27
                  Pg.1577: 77, 104
         HTL Pgs. 6, 19, 21, 27, 34, 42, 62, 76,
                  104, 105, 114
         W 46, Pg. 1 "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
Cuber, John      434
Curiosity        232

D

Dancing  54
Danger signals in marriage       432
Dates
         scheduled (with spouse)  57
         teens    350
David, King      19, 497
Davies, A. Powell        263
Day, Jerry       376
Dead love        85-86
"Dear Ann Landers"       438-439
Debt     168
         D3, Pg.217
         D4, Pg.431
         D7, Pg.31-36,36-38,44-49
Decisions: See Choice & decision-making
Deems, Charles   151
Defending yourself: See Justifying yourself
Defensiveness    155
Deformities      40, 323, 502, 517
Dependency       146
Depression       161, 251, 339, 376-377, 410, 473
         effect on sex    266-268
         symptoms of      376
         T: Pg. 562
See also Discouragement
"Derailing"      316
Devotions, family        183
Diet, proper/improper    396
         D6, Pg.310-317
         T: Pg. 406-407
         G: Pg. 789
                  Pg.1159: 13
                  Pg.1730: 13
                  Pg.1747: 48
See also Health & hygiene
Differences, male & female       62-64, 95, 166-167,
273, 300-302, 319-320, 357-359
         intuitive        98, 368-369
         mental/emotional         98, 195, 255, 368
         physical         98
         sensitivity      97-98, 199
         sexual   98, 212-213, 264, 368, 438-439, 493
Dignity  134
Diller, Phyllis  518
Direct approach (appreciation)   119
Directness in communication      447
Disagreements    231, 235, 450-454, 481-485
See also Arguments
Discouragement   142, 161, 233, 251, 339, 340,
376-377, 525
         D1, Pg.502-505,613
         D2, Pg.126-127,146,584,621
         D3, Pg.58,46-49,200
         D4, Pg.89-96
         D6, Pg.149,340-345
         D7, Pg.167-168,402
         D8, Pg.46,165,322-325,454-455,470
         T: Pg. 93-101, 174-178, 213-215, 625-633
         G: Pg.673: 177
                  Pg.1035: 123, 172, 347, 376
                  Pg.1213: 38
                  Pg.1422: 19
                  Pg.1577: 148, 150, 267, 288, 347, 367,
                           475, 572, 576, 667, 747, 797, 838
         DT1, Pg.138,176
See also Depression
Dishonesty       141
See also Honesty & Openness
Disraeli         344
"Distance": See "Space"
Distraction      16
Diversion        335
Divorce  38-39, 52-53, 72-74, 81-83, 84, 85-86,
190, 234, 242, 244, 342, 425, 434-436, 462, 507, 516
         effect on children       434
         D1, Pg.263-267
         D5, Pg.324
         D6, Pg.335-340
         D7, Pg.471-484
         L 110:1
         T: Pg. 562
         G: Pg.383: 252
                  Pg.754: 130
                  Pg.1236: 390, 395
                  Pg.1393: 7, 8, 34, 39, 43, 80, 94
         PX Pg. 324 (Testimonies: Divorces) & Pg.
                  271-273 (Mates, Marriages & Relationships)
         WX Pg. 1161-1162 (Sex, Sexual Mores)
Dobson, James    16, 171, 319-320
Donahue, Phil    411
"Do not disturb" signs   173
"Doormat wives"  253, 424-425
"Double bind"    315
"Double whammy"  316
Dressing & undressing spouse     427
Drinking: See Alcohol
Drug abuse       436
Duchess of Windsor       525

E

Eating out       93
See also Romance
Echo game        448
Edison, Thomas A.        526
Einstein, Albert         8, 139
Eisenhower, Dwight       143
Eliot, Charles William   517
Emotional maturity       224-239
Emotional Maturity Rating Form   226-229
Emotional needs  203
Emotional stress         492
Emotions         257, 320, 351, 394
         W 66, Pg. 1 "Keeping the Lid On"
Emotions words   445
Empathy  99, 204, 304, 327-328, 387
Encouragement    15-16, 35-36, 189, 252, 263-264,
283, 325-326, 341, 353, 378-380, 395, 501-502, 525, 526
         D2, Pg.263,362-365
         D3, Pg.200
         D7, Pg.390
         D8, Pg.75-76
         T: Pg. 429-430
         G: Pg.383: 444, 471
                  Pg.754: 52
                  Pg.1102: 11, 105
                  Pg.1236: 12, 13, 19, 30, 51, 54, 55, 60, 65,
                           66, 67, 68, 70, 71, 75, 95, 97, 99, 100,
                           101, 103,111, 122, 124, 142, 150, 234,
                           243, 249, 250, 262, 326, 333
                  Pg.1577: 144, 614, 615
         HTL Pgs. 35, 95, 114
Enthusiasm       112, 121-123, 295
         D1, Pg.333
         D2, Pg.61-65,71
         D3, Pg.454
         D4, Pg.85-88,175-176,309-311
         D6, Pg.137-138,174-177
         D7, Pg.111-119,367-371,409
         D8, Pg.439
         T, Pg.351,431-437,462,812-814
         DT1, Pg.99,181,302,303
         DT2, Pg.174,187,330
         DT3, Pg.259,290,339
Envy     162, 370
See also Jealousy
Equality         78-79
Erection, masculine      396, 472
         difficulties     266-268
See also Impotence
Exercise         54-55, 293
         D1, Pg.144-145
         D3, Pg.64,150
         D4, Pg.208
         D6, Pg.322-323
         T, Pg.407
         W 50, Pg. 1 "Take a Walk"
         W 182, Pg. 1 "Exercise without Exercising"
         W 222, Pg. 1
See also Health & hygiene
Exhaustion       435
Expectations     104, 275
Experimental roles       453
Eyes     186, 205, 214, 304, 508
F

Failure: See Success & failure
Fair fighting rules      451-452
Faith & trust    16-17, 203
"Family friends"         366-367
Family, importance of    398
Family life      120
Fantasy questions        458
Father's Day     20-21, 23
"Fathering wives"        45-47
Fathers  33-40
Fatigue  156, 435, 492
Faultfinding     441
         D2, Pg.514
See also Criticism & Gossip
Fear     150-151, 213-214, 232, 370
         first-time jitters       216
         of commitment    49
         of communication         343-344
         of criticism     60-61
         of failure       518
         of impotence     396
         of openness      131, 239, 470
         of pregnancy     297
         of receiving advice      61
         of rejection     510
         sexual   213
         Fear of Rejection: D3, Pg.285
         Overcoming: T: Pg. 140-147, 253-259,
                           574-578, 730-731
         G: Pg.383: 289
                  Pg.602: 132
                  Pg.673: 177
                  Pg.715: 44
                  Pg.771: 52
                  Pg.782: 30
                  Pg.1035: 10, 29, 85, 100, 104, 122, 129,
                           131,137, 140, 209, 217, 248, 249, 251,
                           253, 255,256, 261, 268, 275- 278, 280,
                           281,282, 283, 284, 285, 286, 289, 290,
                           291, 292,293, 295, 299, 305, 312, 334,
                           347, 348, 351,358, 361, 383, 398,
                           416, 417, 434
                  Pg.1142: 176
                  Pg.1418: 19
                  Pg.1422: 43
                  Pg.1433: 59
                  Pg.1508: 1, 2, 18, 33, 45-46, 57, 59, 61, 67,
                           71-72, 78, 83, 86, 91-92, 94, 132, 135,
                           136, 149, 154
                  Pg.1577: 326, 570, 638, 811
         DT1, Pg.91,113,312
         DT2, Pg.157
         DT3, Pg.32,58,87
         Worry: D2, Pg.580-581
                  D3, Pg.307-308
                  D4, Pg.33-34
                  D6, Pg.26-27
Feedback, giving & receiving     305, 314, 333, 446, 449
"Feeling word pictures"  126
Feelings         197, 303, 309-310, 454-455
Feelings man     405-407
Feelings woman   408
Feelings words   445
Female chauvinist pig    424
Female role      252-253
Female temperament       12, 33, 36, 62-64, 134, 166-167,
212-213, 252-258, 319-320, 351-354, 395-396, 421, 488, 504-505
See also Human Nature; Differences, male & female; Male temperament
Femininity       145-146, 424
Feminists        424
"Fiesta House"   175
Fighting: See Arguments
Filters, in listening    275
Finances         466, 486
Fire drills, marital     251
Fireside chats   174
First-stage love         419-420
Fitzgerald, Edward       436
Flexibility      237
Flight: See "Travelling"
Flirting         19, 54
"Floor," getting the     453-454
Flower hunt      174
Flowers, use in romance  173, 183
"Fogging"        449
Footwashing      300
Foreplay         493
See also Sex
Forgetfulness    413
Forgetting (forgiveness)         14, 504
Forgiveness      14, 31-32, 110, 119, 125,
153, 164, 198, 208, 262, 272, 293, 346-347, 356-357, 378, 381, 437, 464, 479, 500, 503-504, 525
         D1, Pg.41-42,72-74
         D2, Pg.13,130,138,322-323,337,401,546,550,586,
                  589
         D3, Pg.257-265
         D4, Pg.47,63-66,107-109,278-285,436
         D5, Pg.34-38
         D6, Pg.144
         D7, Pg.60-68
         D8, Pg.177-179
         T: Pg. 372-375, 378, 525-527, 548, 691-694
         G: Pg.114: 29, 56
                  Pg.122: 21
                  Pg.126: 3, 9, 24, 29, 33, 49, 51, 53
                  Pg.378: 10, 11, 12, 22
                  Pg.383: 70, 308, 420
                  Pg.486: 15
                  Pg.507: 393
                  Pg.580: 30
                  Pg.754: 44, 51
                  Pg.1131: 6, 10
                  Pg.1142: 124, 166
                  Pg.1170: 18, 20, 53, 78, 79, 81, 95,
                           126, 131, 132
                  Pg.1236: 4, 5, 7, 8, 20, 33, 62, 78, 107, 123,
                           130, 133, 136, 158, 159, 184, 185, 186,
                           187, 197, 222, 228, 254, 255, 256, 257,
                           258, 259, 260, 287, 290, 291, 295, 319, 323,344
                  Pg.1323: 161
                  Pg.1393: 1, 32, 65, 96
                  Pg.1433: 51, 124
                  Pg.1482: 43, 52
                  Pg.1508: 145
                  Pg.1577: 554, 614, 732, 767
         DT1, Pg.4,36,111,149,156,208,292
         DT2, Pg.7,48,86,118,149,200,225,369,507,512
         DT3, Pg.97,177,191,204,212,220,222,253,296,
                  319, 322, 351
         HTL Pgs. 5, 9
Form: "Pleasers"         444
"Foxs"   249
Fragrances: See Perfume & fragrances
Francis of Assisi, St.   64
Franklin, Benjamin       519
Freedom  159, 205
         sexual   213-214
Frequency of intercourse: See Sex, frequency
Friendship       202-209, 234, 341, 345-350, 364-367, 437
         "marital friendship"     66, 126
         G: Pg.118: 4
                  Pg.602: 7, 311
                  Pg.754: 144
                  Pg.1165: 21
                  Pg.1167: 27
                  Pg.1170: 52, 53
                  Pg.1236: 6, 9, 10, 15, 40, 52, 82, 105, 109,
                           110, 115, 116, 134, 135, 178, 179, 180,
                           181, 182, 183, 188, 189, 190, 201,
                           204-217, 236, 247, 256, 278, 286, 300
                  Pg.1323: 334
                  Pg.1433: 13, 17, 25, 102, 167
                  Pg.1550: 27
                  Pg.1577: 137, 144, 213, 274, 428, 614, 735
         W 123, Pg. 1 "Gift of Friendship"
Frigidity        296-298, 491
         D5, Pg.31-33,330-333
See also Orgasm
Frustration      134, 232, 233
         G: Pg.383: 327
                  Pg.507: 183
                  Pg.602: 283
                  Pg.1035: 74, 181, 343
                  Pg.1213: 25
                  Pg.1577: 118, 146, 255, 576, 673, 721
         HTL Pg. 123
Futurising       415

G

Gabor, Eva       41
Gambling         436
See also Habits
Game playing     230
Game: Three wishes       176
"Garbage collecting"     450
Garfield, James  526
Generalisations  270, 381
Generosity: See Giving
Gentleness       105, 112
See also Love, Kindness & courtesy
Gifts    282, 362, 363, 490
Gilligan, Carole         469
Giving   149, 178, 326
Gladstone, William       527-528
         T, Pg.189-190,361,806
Glenn, John & Annie      354-355
Gluttony: See Diet, Habits
Goals    3-4, 202, 288-289, 382, 477, 518-519
         major-change goals       442
         worksheet        443
         D1, Pg.50-51,84,306-309,321-324,348-353,596
         D2, Pg.115,134,170,201,291
         D3, Pg.320-322,388,449-456
         D5, Pg.151-156,269-280
         D6, Pg.49-50,109-110,204
         D8, Pg.284
         DT1, Pg.7,58,74,133,155,170,337
         DT2, Pg.16
         DT3, Pg.80,160,276,277
         T: Pg. 213-215, 812-814
         G: Pgs. 1734-1737
                  Pg.383: 344
                  Pg.507: 306, 359, 403
                  Pg.790: 1, 2
                  Pg.813: 22, 34, 39
                  Pg.1035: 116, 237, 238
                  Pg.1118: 12
                  Pg.1123: 5, 36
                  Pg.1403: 2, 10
                  Pg.1407: 8
                  Pg.1422: 67, 80
                  Pg.1433: 186
                  Pg.1475: 18
                  Pg.1554: 17
                  Pg.1577: 36, 562
         HTL Pgs. 8, 174
         HTGTD Pgs. 6-13, 50, 56
Going out        490
Gossip: See Criticism & Gossip
Gothard, Bill    132
"Grabber"        469
Grace, Princess  348
Gratefulness     8-9, 102-103, 103-104, 116, 123, 522-523
Griffin, Merv    411
Grouchiness      517
Grudges  208
Guest, Edgar     179, 494
Guilt    210, 395, 473, 475
"Gunnysacking"   450
"Gunpowder words"        156
Gushing  198

H

Habits   41, 136, 154-155, 427, 442, 518, 519-520
         D2, Pg.463,604
         D3, Pg.288-293,328,345-350
         D6, Pg.309
         T: Pg. 727-736
         G: Pg. 1121-1122
                  Pg.383: 332, 417
                  Pg.507: 75
                  Pg.602: 11
                  Pg.754: 36
                  Pg.1236: 26
                  Pg.1504: 35
                  Pg.1577: 317, 447, 559
         DT1, Pg.1
         HTL Pgs. 18, 44
         HTGTD Pgs. 37, 59-60
Hair, greasy     357
"Hand in the dark" technique     264-265
Handicaps        40, 323, 502
         D1, Pg.113-114,336-340
         D3, Pg.1-8
         D4, Pg.107-109
         D6, Pg.61-66,272
         D7, Pg.120-122,123-126
Handyman work    23-25, 494
Hannah (Biblical)        349
Happiness & Joy  75-76, 145-147, 341, 480, 528
         D1, Pg.234-235,572-574
         D2, Pg.2-3,324,422,633-634
         D3, Pg.26,355-356
         D4, Pg.48-51
         D5, Pg.81-86,292-294
         D8, Pg.342-343,354
         T: Pg. 127, 376-379
         DT1, Pg.38,126,187,221,303
         DT2, Pg.138,236,435-437
         DT3, Pg.44,45,59,137,162
         G: Pg. 1123-1130
                  Pg.383: 77
                  Pg.490: 67
                  Pg.507: 286, 446, 465
                  Pg.580: 16, 89, 129
                  Pg.700: 104
                  Pg.1035: 90
                  Pg.1102: 49, 50, 110
                  Pg.1118: 21
                  Pg.1132: 12
                  Pg.1142: 182
                  Pg.1159: 54
                  Pg.1170: 122
                  Pg.1213: 33, 38
                  Pg.1236: 233, 322
                  Pg.1323: 178
                  Pg.1403: 13
                  Pg.1539: 1-13
                  Pg.1577: 466, 710, 760
See also Cheerfulness
"Hard Workers in Bed"    48-49
Harshness        271
"Having sex"     213
Hate
         T: Pg. 330-334, 372-375, 711-716,730
         G: Pg. 1131
                  Pg.126: 2, 62
                  Pg.378: 1
                  Pg.1167: 19, 32, 35
                  Pg.1236: 4, 255, 308
                  Pg.1433: 94
Hawthorne, Nathaniel     323
"Headship"       191-192
Health & Hygiene         54-55, 124, 132, 147, 209,
292-293, 339, 340, 357-358, 429, 493
         Cleanliness: D1, Pg.228-230
         Exercise: D1, Pg.144-145
                  D3, Pg.62-68
         General references: D2, Pg.564-565,570
                  D4, Pg.189-190,315-316
                  D5, Pg.46-49,163-170,191
                  D6, Pg.26-27,309-329
                  D7, Pg.509-511
                  D8, Pg.148-150
         Rest & sleep: D3, Pg.268
         Sickness: D1, Pg.345-347
         Stress: D2, Pg.484
         T: Pg. 253, 401, 405-413, 620-624, 658
         PX Pgs. 257-259
         WX Pgs. 1104-1106
         CC Vol. 3, Pg. 610-657
         HH 2. HH 3, Pg. 388-393, 404-412.
         HH 4, Pg. 476-510
See also Turn-offs & turn-ons
Hearing
         definition of    155
         selective        274-275
Heartbeats (as resource)         334
"Heavyweight"    469
"Hedgehogs"      248-249
Helpmate         193
Henpecked husbands       253
"Hit & run"      450
Hitting below the belt   450
Holy Spirit      64
Honesty & Openness       37, 49, 56-57, 59, 66, 69-
70, 88-89, 157, 164-165, 193-194, 197, 214, 217-218, 232, 238, 243, 259, 261-262, 266, 299, 328, 330, 342, 344, 367, 380, 394-395, 397, 427, 446, 465, 468-469, 470-472, 493-494, 499, 503, 512-513
         D1, Pg.82-83,129-130,232-233,247-250,459-461,
                  575-578,598-601,602-605
         D2, Pg.14,347,353-354,464,468,475,564-570,
                  586,591
         D3, Pg.145,299-306,335-345,355-356,      402
         D4, Pg.119-123,421-422
         D7, Pg.24-26,29,82-85,153,197-198,202,210,
                  334-335,515,530-537,537-547,556,566
         D8, Pg.182-185,307
         T: Pg. 367-371, 506-508, 717-719
         DT1, Pg.268,344
         DT2, Pg.340,345,431,456-459,502
         DT3, Pg.99,143,146
         G: Pg. 1135-1140
                  Pg.126: 15
                  Pg.383: 268, 373, 415, 433, 436,467
                  Pg.507: 319
                  Pg.715: 9, 17
                  Pg.754: 46
                  Pg.1142: 168, 169
                  Pg.1165: 3, 20
                  Pg.1201: 15
                  Pg.1236: 238
                  Pg.1323: 141, 219, 375
                  Pg.1433: 22, 95, 152
                  Pg.1482: 9
                  Pg.1501: 12
                  Pg.1550: 42
                  Pg.1726: 1, 2, 7, 11, 18, 24
                  Pg.1738: 8
         HTL Pgs. 108, 125
         W 66, Pg. 1 "Keeping the Lid On"
"Honey-Do" List  122, 123
Horizontal communications        276
Horseback rides  174
Hostility        525
         W 45, Pg. 1 "Fury Fends Off Friends"
See also Arguments; Anger
"Hound Dogs"     250
Housekeeping     23-25, 120, 142-143, 168-169,
426, 428, 493-494
"How Do I Love Thee?"    29, 94
Hugging  18, 33, 169, 526
         T: Pg. 224-225
         W 69, Pg. 1 "Hugs Are Magic"
         W 126, Pg. 1 "Dr. Hug"
Human Nature     36, 62-64, 95-128, 97-98, 129-133,
135-143, 158-159, 171, 195, 199, 202, 210, 252-258, 291, 300, 301-302, 319-320, 331, 344, 351-354, 357-359, 368-369, 373, 394-398, 400, 410, 419-420, 438-439, 468, 469, 488
         D1, Pg.37-39,593-597
         D2, Pg.393,635
         D4, Pg.80,339-341
         D5, Pg.391-395
         D6, Pg.13-15
         D7, Pg.14-17,74,173-176,384
         D8, Pg.24
         DT1, Pg.150
         DT3, Pg.118,225
         G: Pg. 1141
                  Pg.114: 42
                  Pg.118: 6
                  Pg.126: 54
                  Pg.376: 3
                  Pg.383: 177
                  Pg.754: 13
                  Pg.1035: 284
                  Pg.1142: 65
                  Pg.1433: 32, 39, 45, 53, 76, 80, 84,
                           90, 93, 97, 100, 121, 140-141, 156, 176
                  Pg.1482: 47
                  Pg.1554: 3
                  Pg.1734: 29
         W 46, Pg. 1 "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
         W 77, Pg. 1 "Men in Love"
Human qualities, Feminine        145-147
Humility         129-130, 164-165, 372, 380, 504, 513
         D1, Pg.41-42,116,232,459-461,490-493
         D2, Pg.13,193-196,204,234,347,351,394,551,553,
                  555-556,564-570,592,598-607,638,641-642
         D3, Pg.93-98,210-211,213,269,281,285-286,
                  309-311,345-350 415-416,418
         D4, Pg.20,23,102-103,119-122,125-126,278-285
         D5, Pg.114,177-181,197,242,367-369,386,392-395
         D6, Pg.13-15,54-57,126-132,174-177,286,289-290
         D7, Pg.2,35-36,41,70,74-75,93,184,188-189,
                  196-206,284-288,301-302,442-448,470,517-
                  518,524-526,566
         D8, Pg.48-51,155-160,163-166,169-170,305
         T: Pg. 74-78, 196-204, 266-274, 506-508,
                  537-550, 711-726, 730
         DT1, Pg.114,142,256,315,324,330,333,350
         DT2, Pg.71,158,345,470
         DT3, Pg.16,47,170,194,195,255,293
         G: Pg. 1142-1158
                  Pg.114: 9
                  Pg.126: 2, 7, 15, 31, 39, 43, 45
                  Pg.490: 85
                  Pg.507: 2, 111, 112, 136, 171, 238, 248,
                           409, 431
                  Pg.673: 37, 100
                  Pg.715: 3
                  Pg.754: 39
                  Pg.782: 21
                  Pg.1102: 97
                  Pg.1118: 2, 3, 5, 10, 17, 25, 29, 30
                  Pg.1123: 4, 46
                  Pg.1135: 7, 25, 27, 30
                  Pg.1159: 6
                  Pg.1167: 1, 16, 31
                  Pg.1202: 15
                  Pg.1213: 25
                  Pg.1236: 21, 151, 160, 386, 395
                  Pg.1323: 177, 391
                  Pg.1433: 6, 117, 152, 179, 191
                  Pg.1482: 1, 2, 11,
                           18-20, 22, 29, 35, 40, 45, 47, 55, 59
                  Pg.1504: 30, 55, 56
                  Pg.1554: 46
                  Pg.1560: 5
                  Pg.1565: 62
                  Pg.1577: 1, 116, 380, 442, 490, 831-2
                  Pg.1730: 8
                  Pg.1738: 24
See also Pride
Humour   29, 41, 128, 216, 290, 496
         D4, Pg.119-123
         W 56, Pg. 1
         T, Pg.737-740
Hurt     441-442
Husbands
         checklist        279-280
         ideal    280, 497
         studying         259
         types of         253-254
Hygiene: See Health & hygiene

I

"I intend" statements    449
"I love you"     15, 33, 130, 324, 394, 417, 421, 490
         ways to say      18-32, 184
"I messages"     99, 117-118, 305-308, 447-448
"I told you so"  23, 100
"I would like" statements        448-449
Ideal husband    280, 497
Ideal woman      135
"If only"        377
Ignoring         451
Immaturity       239, 370-371
"Immigrants"     185-186
Impotence        296, 396
         temporary        213, 216
         D5, Pg.32,178-181,228
"I.M. De Head"   191
In-laws  23, 189, 366-367, 436
Inattentiveness  30
Independence (as virtue)         511
Indifference     6, 11, 29, 96, 140
         G: Pg.122: 8
                  Pg.486: 55
                  Pg.700: 90
                  Pg.813: 17, 35, 41
                  Pg.1141: 2
                  Pg.1236: 23, 253
                  Pg.1323: 100, 206, 207, 234, 356
                  Pg.1726: 5
                  Pg.1747: 36
Indirect approach (appreciation)         119
Infatuation      171, 219-220, 223
Inferiority complex      239, 518
See also Self-esteem
Infidelity       68-70, 243, 415-416, 486
         D1, Pg.41-42
Ingratitude      8-9
Inhibitions      47
         D5, Pg.32-33,330-333,365-367
See also Freedom
Initiative       235
Inner Conversations      153-154
Insight  485
Inspiration: See Enthusiasm
Intelligence     432
Intercourse: See Sex
Interpreting     307
See also Assumptions
Interrupting     30, 156, 162, 245, 450
Intimacy         49, 50, 60, 190, 197, 198-199, 230,
351-352, 398, 434, 439, 457-459, 468, 469
         W 207, Pg. 1 "Intimacy"
Intimate Distance        186
Introspection    62
Introverts       422
Intuition, woman's       98
Intuitive differences    98, 368-369
See also Differences, male & female
"Is He a Wrong Number" Quiz      422-423
"Is He Right for Me" checklist   423
Italian night    183

J

Jealousy         370, 423-425, 425, 513-514
         D1, Pg.114
         D2, Pg.565,592,605-606,620-621,624-628
         D3, Pg.299-306,387-407,421-437
         D4, Pg.149-150
         D5, Pg.114,367-375
         D7, Pg.180,513
         DT2, Pg.460-463
         T: Pg. 165-172, 325-334, 348, 731, 791-801
         G: Pg. 1167-1169
                  Pg.126: 7, 49, 54, 58, 61, 62
                  Pg.754: 139
                  Pg.1142: 122
                  Pg.1393: 44, 48, 91
                  Pg.1504: 55, 56
                  Pg.1734: 21
See also Envy
"Jerks"  189
Jesus    17, 18, 64, 95, 109, 201, 203, 205, 207,
208, 278, 279, 283, 309, 330, 346-347, 367, 388, 528
See also Relation to the Lord
Job description, marital         65
Joint Script     247-248
Jokes: See Humour
Jones, Charles   379
Jowett, Benjamin         511
"Joyful Noise"   58
Judging  197, 276
Jumping to conclusions   208
See also Assumptions
Justifying yourself      42, 59, 238, 372, 451, 499
         D2, Pg.608-613
         D3, Pg.257-265
         D7, Pg.549,551
         D8, Pg.270-272,307-308
         G: Pg. 1201
                  Pg.378: 33
See also Pride

K

Kassorla, Dr. Irene      513
Keaton, Diane    43
Keller, Helen    522
Kennedy, John F.         15
Kennedy, Rose    16
Kernberg, Dr. Otto       468
Kindness & courtesy      18-32, 77, 133, 160,
183-184, 230, 233, 281, 326, 353, 365, 374-375, 465, 496-497, 498-499, 501-502, 515, 523
         D1, Pg.205-206,212
         D2, Pg.172,206
         D3, Pg.80-84,350-354
         D4, Pg.130-135,182-183,371
         D5, Pg.30-31,208
         D7, Pg.496-500
         G: Pg.126: 33
                  Pg.383: 9
                  Pg.754: 14, 15, 112
                  Pg.1118: 16
                  Pg.1170: 152
                  Pg.1202: 37, 40
                  Pg.1236: 20, 22, 25, 28-30, 32, 35, 39-40, 42,
                           43, 45-46, 50, 53, 59, 60, 67, 68, 73, 75,
                           77, 79, 80, 83, 87, 90-91, 98, 103, 104,
                           121, 128, 144, 152, 163-169, 179, 191,
                           198, 220, 239, 241, 243, 252, 263, 266,
                           282, 283, 298, 299, 309-310, 332, 336,
                           337, 348, 372
                  Pg.1323: 114
                  Pg.1393: 66
                  Pg.1433: 8, 26, 33, 34, 35,      65, 147,169, 192
                  Pg.1495: 23
                  Pg.1550: 12
                  Pg.1558: 14
                  Pg.1730: 2
         HTL Pgs. 10, 26, 37-38, 45, 120-121
         W 207, Pg. 1 "Intimacy"
         KM: Manners
See also Consideration
Kinsey, Dr.      341
Kissing  19, 47, 315
         D5, Pg.47
         D8, Pg.417
         T: Pg. 225-226
See also Affection; Touching
"Kitchen sink" fight     450
Kitchen work     168-169
See also Housekeeping
Klagsbrun, Francine      342
Klein, Dr. Henrietta     523
Kubie, Lawrence  237

L

"Labelling"      283, 450
Lack of desire   473
See also Sex
Landers, Ann     4, 10, 169, 284, 438-439
Laramore, Vivien Yeiser  284
"Late Bloomers"  425
Lateness         36, 190
Lauer, Jeanette & Robert         341
Laziness         494
         D2, Pg.72,171,219
         D7, Pg.32-36,404-406
         T: Pg. 602-606
         G: Pg.122: 8
                  Pg.126: 65
                  Pg.486: 40, 55
                  Pg.673: 174
                  Pg.1141: 6, 9
                  Pg.1202: 21
                  Pg.1411: 16
                  Pg.1422: 74
Leadership, masculine    498
Learning         235
Lederer, William         507
Lee, Ivy         2
Leman, Kevin     439
Lemmon, Jack     344
Lewis, C.S.      514
"Lifetime lovers"        432-433
Lincoln, Abraham         142, 321, 525
Lincoln, Sarah   149
Lists: See Charts & lists
Listening        186, 244, 260-261, 273-278, 322
         active   304-308, 446
         how to   93-94, 109, 113, 139, 152-153,
156-157, 175, 204, 231, 242, 245, 270, 303-308, 372, 381, 462, 483
         importance of    12, 61-62, 64, 204,
286, 329, 350, 471-472, 525
         obstacles        155-156
         selective        274-275
         to children      16
         with positive regard     332
         D1, Pg.523
         D4, Pg.243
         D8, Pg.5
         G: Pg.114: 61
                  Pg.126: 16, 23
                  Pg.383: 107, 484
                  Pg.576: 12, 16
                  Pg.602: 266, 267, 311,
                           401, 405, 408, 418, 419, 420, 426, 430
                  Pg.813: 28
                  Pg.1213: 18
                  Pg.1433: 50
                  Pg.1550: 7, 8
         HTL Pgs. 11-12, 22, 37, 62-63, 76, 94, 127
         W 198, Pg. 1
Listing options  453
Little things    114, 479-480
Logic, masculine         123
Loneliness       49, 197, 370
         D1, Pg.516-518
         D3, Pg.373-376
         T: Pg. 87-92, 217, 227
         G: Pg. 1213-1235
                  Pg.507: 132
                  Pg.1236: 243
                  Pg.1323: 238
                  Pg.1433: 183
                  Pg.1495: 15
                  Pg.1577: 101, 682, 683, 828
Longfellow       143
Love     6, 11, 15, 18-32, 33,
40, 61-62, 63-64, 85-86, 106, 134, 158, 170-184, 196, 219-243, 292, 296, 319-323, 324-330, 341-343, 351, 421-433, 466, 478, 488-497, 507-515, 516, 528
         at first sight   67
         celestial        134-135
         recognising      326-327
         test of  133
         triggers         416-417
         types of         370
         unconditional    203, 324, 526
         D1, Pg.8-9,47,58-59,74-75,84,87-88,89-90,90-91,
                 94-95,487-489,581-588,595-596
         D2, Pg.3,71,74,205,207,209,214,215,217,325,337,
                 339,340-346,362-367,476,529-531,540,547,
                  558,573,619-628
         D3, Pg.51,199-206,309-317,347-350,397-398,401
         D4, Pg.63-67,278-285
         D5, Pg.2-5,29-31,290-294
         D6, Pg.22-25,31-33,338-339
         D7, Pg.15,60-68,72-73,74,150-152,344-346,524
         D8, Pg.9,12-15,198,256-257,596-604,619
         T: Pg. 87-92, 224-239, 367-379, 419-430,
                  537-550, 791-801
         DT1, Pg.2,34,142,150,156,182,183,208,260,314,322
         DT2, Pg.37,130,158,172,192,199,283,317,365
         DT3, Pg.6,18,122,126,151,193,200,203,207,213,
                  215, 294,308,317
         G: Pg. 1236-1322
                  Pg.124: 5
                  Pg.126: 1, 24, 33
                  Pg.383: 21, 28, 68, 248, 273, 281,
                           293, 295, 332, 370, 408, 431, 450
                  Pg.507: 12, 274, 318, 320-323, 350
                  Pg.602: 140, 154
                  Pg.754: 141
                  Pg.1035: 359, 365
                  Pg.1142: 164, 165
                  Pg.1167: 25, 27, 28
                  Pg.1170: 4, 52, 75
                  Pg.1213: 6, 8, 12, 15, 28, 29, 31, 34, 38
                  Pg.1323: 91, 112, 232, 310
                  Pg.1393: 15, 22, 30
                  Pg.1433: 1, 7, 16, 79, 86, 87
                  Pg.1495: 6, 9
                  Pg.1577: 144, 434, 540, 614-615,
                           645, 739
         W 50, Pg. 1 "Question of Love"
         W 56, Pg. 1
         W 207, Pg. 1 "Intimacy"
         W 223, Pg. 1 "Learned in Kindergarten"
"Love day"       457
Love language    400-401
Love language self-test  408-409
Love notes & letters     19, 29, 119,
172, 177-182, 242, 286, 349, 360, 491, 524
Love prescriptions       242
Love slaves      350
Loving your wife, 100 ways       389-391
Loyalty  526
Lush, Jean       436
Lust     296

M

Mace, David & Vera       257, 284
Machismo         209, 394
"Magpies"        249
Make-up  28, 494-495
"Making love"    213
Making Up        31-32
See also Apologising; Forgiveness
Male chauvinism  79
Male dependence upon women       332
Male Role        7, 143-144, 498
Male sexual fears        213
Male Temperament         12, 33, 62-64, 95-128,
129-133, 135-143, 166-167, 209, 210, 212-213, 319-320, 344, 373, 394-398, 400, 410, 419-420, 504-505, 511, 523
         D7, Pg.16-17
         W 46, Pg. 1 "12 Minutes Can Save Marriage"
         W 77, Pg. 1 "Men in Love"
Malnutrition, cause of impotency         396
Man Worship      208
Manipulation     522
Manners  281, 326, 465, 496-497
         D2, Pg.172
         G: Pg.1159: 15
         KM: Manners
See also Kindness & courtesy
Mannes, Marya    359
Manson, Charles  16
Marasmus         198
Margrethe II, Queen      7
Marital satisfaction questionnaire       92
Marital scripts  247-248, 453
Marital survey   26
Markman, Howard  341
Marriage
         benefits of      240-241
         broken   505-506
         checklist        466
         contract         454-456
         counselling      440-441
         friendship       364-367
         killers  435-436
         preparation      39
         Problems         440-460
         Quiz     369-370
         Scriptural Roles         461
         D1, Pg.559-560
         D3, Pg.210-212,313-317
         D4, Pg.119-126,367-372,375,391
         D5, Pg.4,29-34
         D6, Pg.303-305
         D7, Pg.14-17
         T: Pg. 376-379, 537-550, 791-801
         DT2, Pg.14,93,476-487
         DT3, Pg.62
         G: Pg. 1393-1402
                  Pg.118: 12, 21
                  Pg.383: 198, 424, 483
                  Pg.754: 130, 133
                  Pg.1159: 30, 52
                  Pg.1213: 16, 17, 23, 24, 25, 31, 43
                  Pg.1236: 40, 101, 139, 159, 161, 202, 237,
                           280, 352, 353, 367, 368, 374, 384-385
                  Pg.1403: 9
                  Pg.1411: 11
                  Pg.1433: 6, 91, 112
                  Pg.1495: 21, 23
                  Pg.1550: 38
                  Pg.1577: 17, 144
         PX Pgs. 271-273
         HTL Pgs. 76, 100
         WX Pgs. 1161-1162 (Sex, Marriage)
         W 56, Pg. 1
See also Divorce, Priorities
"Married People"         342
Masculinity      132, 139, 394-398
Massages         216
Masters & Johnson        200
Masturbation
         D1, Pg.214
         D2, Pg.560,566
         D3, Pg.117
         D5, Pg.321-333
         D8, Pg.613-614
See also Sex
Materialism      168
Maternal instinct        319
Maturity         52, 158-159, 256-257, 273, 465-466, 495
         building         231-239
         emotional maturity       219, 224-239
         D3, Pg.385-388
         G: Pg.754: 18
                  Pg.1142: 145
                  Pg.1167: 16
                  Pg.1236: 291
                  Pg.1407: 4
                  Pg.1554: 13, 14
                  Pg.1577: 753, 777, 778
         MP: "Wisdom & Wise Speech"
         BT, Pg. 63
"Mauler"         358
Mehrabian, Dr. A.        205
Meninger, Dr. Karl       324
Mentally undressing people       53
"Mind reading"   450
Mirroring        409-412
Misinterpretations       81, 307
See also Assumptions
Mistakes         17, 38
Mixed feelings   235
"Moles"  249-250
"Mommy wives"    253
"Mom's day in"   37-38
Money management         435
Money: See Finances
Monologing       450
Monotony         293, 473-474, 524
Mood, setting    172-175
Moods    161, 353-354, 503
Moody, D.L.      346
Moon walk        174
Moore, Dudley    52
Mother's Day     23
"Mothering husbands"     45-47
Mothers  526-527
         D1, Pg.31-34
         D8, Pg.129-130
         T: Pg. 414-418
         G: Pg.383: 123, 128, 241, 273, 275,
                           276, 277, 279, 280, 281, 286, 287, 288,
                           296,305, 309, 316, 321, 322, 325, 337,
                           338, 347,348, 413, 457, 458, 459, 470,
                           488, 495-504
                  Pg.1236: 42, 387, 394
                  Pg.1323: 47
                  Pg.1540: 28
Motivation       101-114, 121-122, 122, 203, 236, 523
         T: Pg. 281-285
         W 70, Pg. 1 "Getting to Top"
Music, use in romance    173, 176, 215
Mutual topic finding     449

N

Nagging  4-5, 108, 138, 152, 165, 236,
248, 257-258, 271, 387, 389, 519-520, 528
         D1, Pg.212
         D2, Pg.204
         D3, Pg.334,416
         W 94, Pg. 1 "Criticism: Giving/Receiving"
         W 198, Pg. 1
         W 232, Pg. 1
See also Criticism & gossip
Napping  519
         W 69, Pg. 1 "The Benefits of Napping"
         W 96, Pg. 1 "Art of Catnapping"
         W 131, Pg. 1
Narramore, Dr. Clyde     202-203
Nash, Ogden      463
Nature trot      174
Neatness         238
Needs
         feminine         351-353, 371
         masculine        115
Negativeness     3-4, 103, 110, 154, 342,
378-379, 443, 463, 480-481, 517, 521
         D6, Pg.143-145
         D7, Pg.191
         DT1, Pg.161,209,272
See also Positiveness
Negotiation, marital     454-456
Newlyweds
         D2, Pg.562
         D5, Pg.33
Nicholi, Dr.     434
Nicknames
         harmful  271, 282
         loving   40, 412
Nightgowns       429
"No"     472, 526
Non-senders      245
"None of These Diseases"         132
Nonverbal communication  29, 110, 186-187, 304-305
Nudity
         D1, Pg.175-176
         D2, Pg.4,107-109,368,402
         D5, Pg.290
         D8, Pg.607-610
         T, Pg.221-222,707
Nutritional stress       492

O

O'Heeron, Robin  209
Obedience        144
Obesity: See Diet
Observing        156
Obstacles, to listening  155-156
Old Age  273-274, 487, 518
         D2, Pg.374-376
         D7, Pg.126-132
         T: Pg. 812-814
         DT2, Pg.489
         DT3, Pg.28
         G: Pg. 1403-1406
                  Pg.124: 18
                  Pg.383: 26, 149, 333
                  Pg.813: 15
                  Pg.1159: 67
                  Pg.1433: 101
                  Pg.1565: 55
                  Pg.1577: 117, 156, 235, 341, 492,
                           632, 650, 726, 808
                  Pg.1747: 70
         W 48, Pg. 1 "Age Doesn't Matter in Love"
One-to-one time  230-231, 243
Open-ended questions     449
"Open Up"        157
Openness: See Honesty & Openness
Opinions vs. feelings    310
Opposites, in marriage   88, 129
Optimism         513
Organisation     2-4, 428, 489, 493-494, 518-519
         DT1, Pg.362
         G: Pg. 1407-1408
                  Pg.790: 4
                  Pg.1422: 68, 69, 70, 71
         HTL Pg. 323
         HTGTD Pg. 26-49
Orgasm   48, 340, 341, 459, 491, 493, 524
         faking orgasm    398, 472
         D5, Pg.31-32,321-333
See also Sex; Frigidity
Osborne, Dr. Cecil       368-369
"Outroofing"     14
Over-generalisation      270, 451
Overcommitment   435
Overfastidiousness       165
Overkill         450
Overloading      316, 262
Overnight Honeymoons     34
"Oversexed"      211
Oxenham, John    272
"Oxygen of Intimacy"     457

P

Papini   41
Parents  33-40, 526-527
         friendship with children         366
         possessiveness   348
See also Children
Parker, Theodore         338
Parking (romance)        176
Pascal   17, 41
Passion  106, 370, 468
Passive-aggressive behaviour     77, 450
Past     441
Past, avoiding   270, 441, 484
Patience         237-238, 283, 327, 372, 479-480
         D1, Pg.197-198,381-384,498
         D2, Pg.141-142, 203-204,485, 497, 499, 523, 527,
                  544,550
         D4, Pg.11,47,80-82,161-162,280-281,300
         D6, Pg.62-66,118,305
         D7, Pg.10-14,389
         D8, Pg.453
         DT1, Pg.36,144,211,288,328
         DT2, Pg.348
         DT3, Pg.15,63,133,180,188,246,338
         G: Pg. 1411
                  Pg.114: 14, 19, 34, 61
                  Pg.126: 43, 65
                  Pg.383: 125, 367
                  Pg.602: 43, 63, 241, 254
                  Pg.673: 186
                  Pg.1035: 2, 19, 161-162, 164, 165, 235,
                           304, 367, 377, 382, 414
                  Pg.1213: 17
                  Pg.1422: 63
                  Pg.1501: 22
                  Pg.1508: 143
                  Pg.1557: 5
                  Pg.1565: 69, 70
                  Pg.1577: 40, 110, 268, 348, 396, 490, 680
         HTL Pg. 23, 62, 92, 137
Paul, Apostle    117, 340, 383, 465
Peace    104
Peale, Mrs. Norman Vincent       259
"Peanuts"        259-260
Peattie, Donald Culross  265
Peer pressure    234
Penis    210-211
Penn, William    177, 519
Pennebaker, James        209
Perfectionism    38, 143, 164, 165, 225, 257-258
         D2, Pg.502
         D6, Pg.338
Perfume & fragrances     215, 339, 474
Perseverance     238
         D1, Pg.103-105,197-198,494-496,496-498
         D2, Pg.34,133-135,626
         D3, Pg.24
         D4, Pg.7-10,24-25,161-162
         D5, Pg.34
         D6, Pg.61-66,85-86,339
         T, Pg.130,466,603-604
         G: Pg.126: 65
                  Pg.602: 43
                  Pg.813: 34, 35
                  Pg.1035: 166, 312
                  Pg.1118: 31
                  Pg.1202: 6
                  Pg.1422: 24
                  Pg.1433: 104, 104
                  Pg.1554: 15, 17, 25
                  Pg.1577: 10, 35, 125, 138, 142, 190,
                           396, 406, 413, 468, 487, 514, 516,518,
                           533, 536, 537, 548, 555, 558, 565, 576,
                           588, 591, 595, 598, 616, 632, 635, 657,
                           789, 794, 801, 836
                  Pg.1734: 6
         HTL Pgs. 124-125
         HTGTD Pg. 29
Persistence      102
Personal distance        187
Petty grievances         272
"Phantom lovers"         48
Phobias
         D3, Pg.143,363-364
         T, Pg.259
Physical abuse   451
Physical mirroring       411
Picnics  174
Picture, of spouse       19
Pierce, Jan      463
Piercy, Marge    469
Planning         2-4, 235, 489, 518-519
         D2, Pg.479
         D4, Pg.80-82
See also Organisation
Plato    41
Playfulness      40-41
"Playing Lawyer"         451
"Pleasers"       443
Pleasure         210, 213-214
         D1, Pg.234-235
         T, Pg.215,222-223
         G: Pg.126: 1
                  Pg.1123: 42, 51, 52, 53
         DT3, Pg.4,59,66,162,166
Poems for love letters   178-182
Poetry, writing  360
Politeness: See Kindness & Courtesy
Popenoe, Paul    219
Porch swings     183
Positive Regard  332
Positiveness     3-4, 23, 26-27, 103, 110,
111, 146-147, 154, 159-160, 283-284, 286, 378-379, 443, 463, 480, 517, 518, 519, 521, 525
         D1, Pg.212,385-387,499-501,510,556,572-574
         D2, Pg.29,46-49,362-363,366,503,598-600
         D3, Pg.132-135,308,362-365
         D4, Pg.89-96,135
         D5, Pg.51,81-86
         D6, Pg.143-145
         D8, Pg.455
         DT1, Pg.209,272
         DT3, Pg.134,158,236
         G: Pg. 1416-1417
                  Pg.580: 21, 82, 85, 86, 92, 103, 130
                  Pg.754: 50, 57
                  Pg.813: 42
                  Pg.1035: 18, 247, 303, 396, 405
                  Pg.1236: 67, 81
                  Pg.1323: 304
                  Pg.1393: 88
                  Pg.1433: 2, 93, 122
                  Pg.1501: 24
                  Pg.1577: 4, 14, 44, 45, 49, 59, 105,
                           171, 172, 193, 286, 367, 374, 375, 382,
                           383, 389, 447, 474, 511, 515, 524, 529,
                           530, 534, 544, 550, 562, 667
                  Pg.1734: 42
         HTL Pgs. 13, 39, 95-97
Possessiveness   423-425
         T: Pg. 791-801
Potential        17, 152-153, 517
Pow-wows         313-314
Power grab test  27-28
Power struggles  310-311, 454
Practicality     194
Praise   103, 119, 207, 209, 283, 378-380
Prayer   27, 32, 130, 153, 282, 286, 366, 506, 518
         spouse's         282
         with mate        361
Preferences: Spouse      285
Pregnancy
         effect on marriage       429-430
         fear of  297
Premature conclusions    275
Premature ejaculation    49, 213, 268, 296
Pressure         131
Prestige         454
Prickly heat     357
Pride    441-442
         Masculine        139-141, 281, 394
Prima donnas     495
Priorities       2, 39, 195, 281, 286-287, 428, 519
         In work: D1, Pg.424-427
                  D2, Pg.478
         In relationships: D1, Pg.516-518, 624-627
                  D2, Pg.140, 539-541, 571-573
                  D3, Pg.50-51, 366-384, 431-438
                  D4, Pg.123-124
                  D5, Pg.283-287, 292-294
                  D7, 473
Privacy  20, 37, 88-89, 427, 500
Problems
         marital  59-64, 429-431, 505-506
         physical         203
Procrastination  238
         G: Pg.1422: 9-10,19-20,27, 29-30,32, 34-37
                  Pg.1554: 22
         HTL Pg. 183
         HTGTD Pgs. 19-22, 49
See also Redeem the Time
Promises         234
Promptness       36, 190
Provisional trust        242
Pseudo-frigidity         296-298
Public distance  187
Punctuality      36, 190
         D1, Pg.362
         D3, Pg.341
         D5, Pg.41-43,208-209
Pushiness: See Bossiness
Put-down questions       451
"Puzzle" approach        117

Q

Quantifying wants        449
Queen of England, parable of     497
Questions        144, 205, 276, 354, 458, 525
Quickies         90
Quiet spirit     105
Quizzes & tests:
         Emotional maturity rating form   226-229
         How much do you know about spouse        285
         Love language self test  408-409
         Love test for husbands   133
         Marital satisfaction questionnaire       92
         Marital strengths & weaknesses   369-370
         Quiz for husbands        279-280
         Quiz for wives   107-108
         Romantic attraction questionnaire        222-223
See also Charts & lists

R

Rain, Walking in         175
Rapport  188
Rasputin         508
Reading interests, Male  281
Reagan, Ronald   491
Realism  236
Reassurance      395
Rebellion
         feminine         143-144
         masculine        137
Redeeming the time       2, 36, 428, 493-494
         D1, Pg.323,474,607-608
         D2, Pg.110,147-148,293,302-303,333,387,430-431
         D3, Pg.58,87,249-250,288-293,326-334,341
         D4, Pg.138,152-154
         D5, Pg.41-43,65-68,183-185,208-209,240-242
         D6, Pg.123-124
         D8, Pg.228-229,560
         DT1, Pg.341
         DT2, Pg.59,94,167
         DT3, Pg.17,147,333,365
         G: Pg.507: 201
                  Pg.771: 38, 39
                  Pg.1202: 43
                  Pg.1236: 309
                  Pg.1323: 46, 62
                  Pg.1407: 2
                  Pg.1508: 22
                  Pg.1554: 34
         HTGTD Pgs. 6-25
         HTL Pg. 323
See also Procrastination
Redford, Robert  507
Reflecting, in conversation      277
Reflective listening     156
Rehearsing responses     275
Rejection        454
Relation to the Lord     17, 64, 153, 169, 178, 195, 201,
287, 330, 361, 506, 527
Relationship, definition of      345
Relationships, problem types     423-425
Relations with Others
         T: Pg. 87-92, 367-371, 376-379, 537-550,
                  607-614, 802-805, 824
         D1, Pg.70-74,83,201-206,212
         D2, Pg.172,339-354,363-367,515,521,523,525,
                 549-556,564-570,586-591,619-628
         D3, Pg.20-21,50-51,210-212,309-311,366-384,
                  401,438-448
         D4, Pg.63-66,105-109,130-135,154-155,243,
                  278-285,367-372
         D5, Pg.74-77,290-294,337-346,391-399
         D6, Pg.338-339
         D7, Pg.24-26,29-31,71,111-119,173-176,194-195,
                  206-210,344-346,383-386
         DT2, Pg.155,345,346,502,503
         DT3, Pg.90,122,134,158,182,191,213,222,236,294
         G: Pgs. 1433-1473
                  Pg.114: 29
                  Pg.118: 18
                  Pg.376: 6
                  Pg.377: 6
                  Pg.383: 471
                  Pg.754: 61, 130, 132, 135
                  Pg.1035: 392
                  Pg.1097: 4
                  Pg.1102: 11
                  Pg.1118: 10, 23, 28
                  Pg.1123: 3, 20, 26, 29
                  Pg.1135: 16, 34
                  Pg.1142: 18, 45, 80, 101, 136, 143,      145
                  Pg.1159: 2, 5
                  Pg.1213: 5, 6
                  Pg.1236: 2, 34, 45, 78, 81, 90, 105, 125, 148,
                           166, 176, 197, 282, 294
                  Pg.1393: 1, 8, 29, 30
                  Pg.1411: 15
                  Pg.1482: 7, 41
                  Pg.1495: 21, 23
                  Pg.1504: 8
                  Pg.1540: 27
                  Pg.1550: 3, 9, 22, 27-29, 42, 43, 46, 47,        48
                  Pg.1565: 61, 69
                  Pg.1577: 521, 620
                  Pg.1728: 1, 6, 7, 9
Relaxing         508
Relaxing technique       377
Reliability      238
Remaking your spouse     87-88, 115
Remarriage       251
Repairs, house   360, 494
"Repent," definition     378
Repetition
         in conversation  277
         to reinforce love        417
Resentment       32, 132, 136, 208, 248-251, 295, 297
         D7, Pg.442-449
Reserve  29, 140, 245, 278, 343-344, 422
Respect  37, 365
Responsibility   208
         D3, Pg.412-413
         D4, Pg.207-208
         G: Pg.507: 115
                  Pg.1118: 24
         HTL Pgs. 124-125
Responsiveness   125
Reuben, Dr. David        10, 328, 514, 523
Revenge  44-45, 322-323, 485
         G: Pg.378: 1
                  Pg.1131: 1, 2, 3
Reverence        6
Revolving method of communication        386
Reward contract  455-456
Ridicule: See Belittling
Ring, Wedding    20
Rituals  182-183, 288
Roadblocks (communication)       307, 518
Roles    52, 77-78, 394, 484
         feminine         193
         masculine        7, 143-144
         W 66, Pg. 1 "Keeping the Lid On"
Romance  11, 39, 160, 170-184, 292, 352,
358, 359-363, 417-419, 474, 489-490, 501, 507-515
Romantic attraction      220-223
Romantic Attraction Questionnaire        222-223
Romantic love    67-68, 219
Romantic virgins         221
Roosevelt, Theodore      39, 245
Rostopovich, Mstislav    323
Rough Hands      358
Rules of arguing: See Arguments, rules for
Rules of togetherness    225, 229-230
Rules of War     355-356
"Ruling out the speaker"         275
Runaway Wives    254
Russell, Anna    516
Ruth, Book of    345
Ruts     518

S

Sacrifice        321
Sadism   502
Salt principle   113, 118, 388-389
Salvation        17, 203, 330, 527-528
         D1, Pg.16,22-24,37,53,109-112,271-274,363-366,
                  443-445,524,546,563,606
         D2, Pg.5,9,43,51,160,195,593,639
         D3, Pg.69-79
         D6, Pg.27-31,294-297
         D8, Pg.6,15,30-31,105-106,116-119,125,341-358,
                 372-379,419-422,423-434,455,459,473,489,
                  497,604,619-620
         T: Pg. 1-16, 21-25, 35, 70-73, 79-86, 123-135, 173,
                  196-204, 215, 228-243, 275-280, 321-324,
                  401, 420-421, 570-573, 579-583, 588, 619,
                  648, 672, 783-790, 819
         DT1, Pg.8,13,21,29,59,65,184,234,284,308,354
         DT2, Pg.27,43,51,60,66,79,118,239,274,325,361,
                  391,396,410,437,509-519
         DT3, Pg.8,12,31,38,41,72,85,97,123,132,137,142,
                 154,164,166,169,171,174,177,189,220,255,291,
                  296,311,322,361
         G: Pg.126: 2, 45, 49, 51-54, 59, 64
                  Pg.383: 29, 55, 116, 143-144,    352
                  Pg.483: 11
                  Pg.490: 69-70, 82
                  Pg.673: 13
                  Pg.771: 7, 54
                  Pg.1116: 6, 25
                  Pg.1123: 7, 30, 34
                  Pg.1213: 19, 20, 21
                  Pg.1236: 129
                  Pg.1412: 12, 19, 22, 23
                  Pg.1422: 30, 31
                  Pg.1482: 39
                  Pg.1504: 45, 62
                  Pg.1540: 17
                  Pg.1557: 4
                  Pg.1577: 494, 773
                  Pg.1747: 8
Sample   36, 37, 122, 367, 386, 484
"Sandwich" approach      117
Sangster, Margaret       258
Sarcasm  190, 451
See also Belittling; Criticism & gossip
Satir, Dr. Virginia      490
Saturday morning out     183
"Say-Ask" statements     450
Scapegoats       309
"Scarlet Letter"         323
Schedules (flexibility)  124
Schulz, Charles  259
Schwab, Charles  2
Scolding         276
Scorekeeping     452
Scratchy chin    357
Scripts, Marital         247-248, 453
Second stage love        420
Security, Need for       351
Seduction        57-58, 459
Selectivity      274-275
Self-confidence  214, 508
Self-consciousness       55
         T: Pg. 140-147
Self-control     237, 395
Self-disclosure  449
See also Honesty & openness
Self-esteem      151-152, 203, 282-284, 319, 325
Self-identity    311
Self-pity        27, 151, 208-209, 245
Self-reliance    236
Self-righteousness       138, 164, 207-208, 249, 302
         D1, Pg.41-42,86,113-114,274,338
         D2, Pg.50,193,196,341,585,603-604,608-613
         D3, Pg.29,93-98,147-149,161,165,187-188,
                  345-350,385-388
         D4, Pg.65-66,94,103,183-184
         D5, Pg.36-37,54,346-347,365-367
         D6, Pg.55-57,63-64
         D7, Pg.77,197,199,260,283-287,302,442-448,
                  460-462,524-526
         D8, Pg.49-51,155-189,427,594-595
         T: Pg. 70-78, 99, 266-280, 711-722, 730
         DT1, Pg.4,9,208,292
         DT2, Pg.37,43,71,76,127,259,323
         DT3, Pg.12,47,54,94,135,191,253,293,296,329
         G: Pgs. 1482-1490
                  Pg.126: 2, 7, 9, 43, 51, 53
                  Pg.486: 56
                  Pg.490: 73
                  Pg.507: 255, 440
                  Pg.754: 5, 31, 42, 43, 49, 68, 81,
                           82, 107, 108, 132, 140
                  Pg.1123: 4
                  Pg.1142: 41, 46, 85, 173, 174, 177, 179
                  Pg.1165: 1, 2, 16, 17
                  Pg.1170: 27, 109
                  Pg.1236: 57, 131, 210
                  Pg.1393: 20, 92
                  Pg.1433: 31, 59
Self talk        153-154
Selfishness/unselfishness        6, 64, 78, 79, 87-88,
91, 106, 192, 196, 238, 254, 279, 280-281, 321-323, 324, 326, 354, 365, 371, 373, 398, 436, 462-463, 482, 498-499, 500-501, 512
         D1, Pg.8-9,74-75,89-90,114-118,150
         D2, Pg.140,172,336,422,573,627-628
         D3, Pg.26-31,371,444
         D4, Pg.20,367-372
         D5, Pg.156-158,233-242,247-250,286-287,292-294
         D6, Pg.75-78
         D7, Pg.22-26,262,264,497,520
         D8, Pg.536-537
         T: Pg. 253, 589-593, 758-770, 791-801, 817
         DT1, Pg.64,120,126
         DT3, Pg.183,185,226,240,245,306
         G: Pgs. 1730-1733
                  Pg.126: 29, 41, 47, 54
                  Pg.507: 95, 441, 452, 455, 457, 463
                  Pg.602: 160
                  Pg.754: 139
                  Pg.802: 25, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37
                  Pg.1102: 2, 13, 41, 42, 45, 59, 67, 73, 78,
                           79, 81, 83, 84, 90, 91, 93, 96, 106, 108
                  Pg.1123: 26, 31, 46, 50
                  Pg.1142: 40, 182, 183
                  Pg.1167: 17, 18, 32, 33, 34, 38
                  Pg.1213: 5, 6, 14, 25, 33, 38, 41
                  Pg.1236: 1, 89, 120, 127, 193, 268, 356
                  Pg.1323: 125, 126, 199, 221, 379
                  Pg.1393: 8, 16, 83, 84, 85, 86, 91
                  Pg.1433: 109
                  Pg.1504: 31
                  Pg.1565: 61
                  Pg.1577: 64, 434, 479, 479, 490
Sense of smell, feminine         358
Sensitivity      98-100, 103, 199, 243, 286, 351
         feminine         95, 97, 104, 320
         masculine        139, 210-211
         D1, Pg.71
         D2, Pg.340-341
         D3, Pg.212,267-269,414-420
         D7, Pg.519,529
         D8, Pg.78,166-167,269
         BT, Pg. 72
Sensory overload         206
Sensuality       467
Sentiment        509
Separations      84, 516
See also Divorce
"Serendipity Times"      16
"Set-up," the    315
Sex      9-10, 10-12, 25-26, 42-58, 64,
89-90, 124, 166-168, 200, 210-211, 212-218, 219-
220, 230, 241, 266-269, 292, 296-299, 324-330, 338, 339-341, 357-359, 359, 368, 394, 396, 422, 428, 459, 464-465, 466, 467-474, 486, 491-493, 504-505, 523-524
         alibis   42, 55, 57, 201, 311
         anchors  412-413
         bargaining       45, 167, 429
         competitiveness  50-52
         concentration    218
         differences, male/female         264
         education        200
         fears    213, 216
         Freedom  213-214
         frequency of     43, 50-52, 167, 213,
220, 341, 429, 459, 473, 491, 505
         "oversexed"      211
         preparation      492, 493
         problems         467
         scheduling       53
         sexiness         214-216, 467, 508-509
         "sexing out"     57
         sex maniac, female       424
         sexual gridlock  468-469
         sexual seesaw    44-45
         techniques       47-48
         thinking sexually        53-54
         "undersexed"     211
         Cleanliness: D1, Pg.230
                  D6, Pg.326
         Freedom: D1, Pg.8-9,213-215
                  D2, Pg.2-5,107-109,402,405,407
                  D5, Pg.364-367
         General references: D5, Pg.290-294
                  D6, Pg.32-33
                  D7, Pg.74
                  D8, Pg.599-604,605-621
                  T, Pg.216-239,377
                  DT1, Pg.299
                  DT2, Pg.67,196,272
         Health: D6, Pg.320-321
         Honesty: D1, Pg.459-461
                  D2, Pg.564-570
         How to: D5, Pg.31-33
         Male/Female needs: D7, Pg.14-17
         Masturbation: D5, Pg.321-333
         Perversions: D4, Pg.370
         Pornography: D1, Pg.175-176
         Problems: D2, Pg.571-573
                  D4, Pg.368-372
                  D6, Pg.245-252,338-339
         Questions about: D7, Pg.273
         Relationships: D2, Pg.619-628
                  D3, Pg.379-383
         Unselfishness/Selfishness: D1, Pg.114-118
         T: Pg. 216-239, 377
         G: Pgs. 1495-1500
                  Pg.126: 1
                  Pg.1142: 164, 168, 169
                  Pg.1159: 59
                  Pg.1213: 26
                  Pg.1236: 139, 377, 388, 392, 397
                  Pg.1393: 89
         WX Pg. 1161-1162
         W 81, Pg. 15
Shakespeare, William     12, 14, 181
"Short fuse"     317
Shouting         199
Shyness  472-473
         D1, Pg.231-233,531
         D2, Pg.64,351-353,404,490-499
         D3, Pg.286-287,335-345
         D4, Pg.421
         D5, Pg.177-181
         D7, Pg.111-112
         D8, Pg.436-437
         T: Pg. 53-58, 140-147, 431-437, 458-463
         G: Pg.126: 55, 56, 61
                  Pg.715: 8,12, 18, 24, 29, 53,54
                  Pg.1035: 191, 261, 264, 279, 299,        312, 369
                  Pg.1142: 92
                  Pg.1323: 19, 93,169,176,196,242,256,292
                  Pg.1433: 167
                  Pg.1577: 788, 811
                  Pg.1726: 21
         DT1, Pg.84,335
         DT2, Pg.26
Sickness         132
Silence  12, 13, 49, 500
         D2, Pg.353,448,450
         D4, Pg.181
         D8, Pg.447
         G: Pg.118: 10, 16, 26
                  Pg.754: 35, 75, 116
                  Pg.1159: 10
                  Pg.1236: 190
                  Pg.1393: 37, 92
                  Pg.1433: 64, 81
                  Pg.1508: 76, 81, 113
                  Pg.1550: 13-17, 19, 34, 36, 45,          54
                  Pg.1554: 23
"Silent Messages"        205
Silent Partners  49
Simon, Carly     436
Sincerity        99, 238, 373, 387
Singer, Isaac Bashevis   515
Sloppiness       237
Smiles   214
         D3, Pg.355-356
         D4, Pg.319
         G: Pg. 1539
                  Pg.754: 145
                  Pg.1035: 90, 271
                  Pg.1236: 12, 18, 92, 141, 232, 246, 269-274,
                           292, 293, 338
                  Pg.1323: 168
                  Pg.1416: 12, 17
                  Pg.1433: 116
                  Pg.1554: 27
                  Pg.1577: 116, 669, 695, 711, 748
Smith, Dr. Lendon        430
Smoking  520
"Snow White"     423
Social distance  187
Solomon, King    3, 152, 517
Song of Solomon  200
Song: "That's the Way..."        436
"Space"  70, 80, 310, 454
"Space invaders"         436
Spanking children        16, 153
Speaking for your spouse         451
Special days     348, 501
See also Birthdays
Speech   262, 509
         D3, Pg.308
         D7, Pg.179-180,367-371,470-471
         T: Pg. 537-553, 802-805
         G: Pgs. 1550-1553
                  Pg.124: 6
                  Pg.486: 42
                  Pg.490: 24-25, 58
                  Pg.507: 367
                  Pg.602: 297
                  Pg.795: 93
                  Pg.813: 24
                  Pg.1035: 24, 299
                  Pg.1142: 26, 69, 156
                  Pg.1159: 18
                  Pg.1202: 35, 39
                  Pg.1323: 24, 27, 43, 44, 72, 86, 103, 107,
                           108, 109, 128, 138, 150, 151, 153, 154,
                           179, 182, 243, 258, 298, 308, 310
                  Pg.1433: 10, 38, 42, 46, 56,     60, 68,
                           69, 82, 88, 138, 139, 159
                  Pg.1577: 811
         HTL
See also Communication
"Speed-O"        469
Spinster         80
Spiritual Needs  203-204, 466
Spontaneity      231
Sports fans      519
Spouse's prayer  282
Spouse's preferences (Chart)     172
Springtime flower hunt   174
Spurgeon, Charles        27
Stagnation       511
"Stalemate"      528
Stargazing       174-175
"State of the Union" Message     313-314
Stekel   210
"Stickler," the  316
Stoner, Peter    330
"Straight to the points"         469
Strengths & weaknesses   190-191
Stress   131, 376, 384, 492
         D1, Pg.1
         D3, Pg.62
         D5, Pg.122-124,153
Stubbornness     281
         D2, Pg.34,215,220,337
         D7, Pg.301
         D8, Pg.308-310
Studd, C.T.      346
Submission       7, 110, 125, 193, 194, 264, 300
See also Yieldedness
Substance abuse: See Alcohol; Drug abuse
Success & failure        208, 232, 436, 518-519
         D1, Pg.103-105,224-227,300-303,427
         D2, Pg.31-32,56,72-73,135,137-139,165,168,171,
                 194,290,394,546-547,584,587,598-600,603
         D3, Pg.311-312
         D4, Pg.16,180,43-46,97-101
         D5, Pg.9-10,125,177-181,209-210,269-280
         D6, Pg.54-57,122-123
         D7, Pg.25
         D8, Pg.167-170,554
         T, Pg.196-204,720-726
         DT1, Pg.9,35,124,333
         DT3, Pg.146,223,231,233,261,347,356
         DT2, Pg.104
         G: Pg. 1554-1556
                  Pg.122: 19
                  Pg.126: 17, 34, 45, 65
                  Pg.378: 26
                  Pg.383: 136
                  Pg.507: 33, 243, 358, 360, 389, 390,405
                  Pg.673: 119
                  Pg.715: 14
                  Pg.754: 7
                  Pg.795: 47
                  Pg.813: 14, 17
                  Pg.1035: 248, 280
                  Pg.1102: 33, 109
                  Pg.1123: 35
                  Pg.1142: 35, 86-88, 125-126,150, 70-71
                  Pg.1422: 50
                  Pg.1475: 42
                  Pg.1482: 31, 35
                  Pg.1501: 5, 6, 7, 8, 11, 25
                  Pg.1577: 255, 468, 507, 519, 533,
                           537, 548, 554, 640, 667, 692, 728,751-
                           755, 783, 789, 791, 801, 814, 818
                  Pg.1734: 24
         HTL Pgs. 12, 137, 329
         HTGTD Pgs. 18-19, 28
Superior Women   425
Superiority      207-208
Survey, Marital  26
Swindoll, Charles        323
Sympathy         141-142, 376, 410, 411
         D3, Pg.5
         D8, Pg.180
         G: Pg.1159: 17
                  Pg.1236: 170, 173, 346
                  Pg.1393: 15
T

Tact
         G: Pg.126: 42
                  Pg.1035: 78
                  Pg.1142: 9
                  Pg.1393: 64, 67
                  Pg.1433: 15, 43, 52, 61, 63,     72,
                           111, 189, 190, 192
                  Pg.1550: 1, 3, 4, 31, 32
         MP: "Wisdom & Wise Speech"
Talkativeness    162
Talking Back     273
Talking down     276
Talking to yourself      153-154
Talking up       276
Teamwork         229
Tears    13, 503
Teasing  394, 496
Teens    39, 349-350
Television       527
Temper, short    317
         T: Pg. 607-614
See also Anger
Temperament      97-98, 301-302, 438-439
         female   171, 331, 357-359, 368-369
         male     259, 331-332, 357-359, 368-369, 400
See also Human Nature
Ten Boom, Corrie         347
Tenderness       145, 169, 438, 503
Tension  132
Terman, Lewis    280
Territorial aggression   312
Tests: See Quizzes & tests
Testosterone     98
Thankfulness     8-9, 26-27, 115, 130, 209, 381, 522-523
         T: Pg. 224, 251-252, 480-487
         DT1, Pg.120,244
         DT2, Pg.87,292
         DT3, Pg.194
         G: Pg.126: 8
                  Pg.383: 403
                  Pg.507: 150
                  Pg.580: 130
                  Pg.602: 268, 384, 434
                  Pg.1123: 15
                  Pg.1142: 123
                  Pg.1323: 159
                  Pg.1403: 8
                  Pg.1508: 144
                  Pg.1577: 2, 57, 90, 105, 172, 181,
                           374, 398, 466, 501, 506, 540, 571, 687
Threatening      451
Three wishes (Game)      176
Time pressures   334, 457
Time, Redeem the: See Redeeming the time
Timing, in conversation  156
Tit-for-tat contract     455
Tolerance        5, 367, 479-480
Tolstoy, Count Leo       136-138
Tone of voice    34-35, 246-247, 356, 411-412
See also Communication, nonverbal
Tongue: See Speech
"Touch Base Time"        458
Touching         28, 33, 45, 169, 175,
         198, 206, 216-217, 247, 458, 469, 509
         W 52, Pg. 1 "Tender Loving Care"
         W 71, Pg. 13 "Try a Little Tenderness"
See also Affection
Tournier, Dr. Paul       204, 261
Tradition, romance of    182-183
Transparency     285
"Travelling"     271, 335
Trials & Tests   38, 202, 206, 244, 340, 353-354, 386
Trigger words    275
See also Gunpowder words
Triple increase technique        92-93
Trite remarks    30
Trobisch, Walter         171
Trust    37, 74-75, 242, 277-278, 311,
328, 342, 395-396, 410
Turn-offs & turn-ons     357-359
Twain, Mark      325
"Twenty-five thousand dollar plan"       2
Twin beds        55-56
Type A personality       401
Type Two relationships   239

U

Ugliness         517-518
Ulcers, Bleeding         132
"Undersexed"     51, 211
Understanding    13, 59, 115, 141-142, 151-152,
186, 206, 252, 259, 273-274, 277, 376, 462
         D2, Pg.364
         G: Pg.383: 467, 482
                  Pg.507: 428, 436
                  Pg.754: 59, 135
                  Pg.1142: 124
                  Pg.1213: 8
                  Pg.1236: 14, 28, 71, 95, 148
                  Pg.1323: 316, 386
                  Pg.1558: 14
                  Pg.1577: 629
         HTL Pgs. 10, 22, 34-35
Undressing each other    58
Undressing people mentally       53
Unity    20, 91, 126, 127, 229,
237, 263, 288, 290, 327, 328-330, 385, 475
         D1, Pg.267,370,529,537
         D2, Pg.199,202,212,220,345,348,505
         D4, Pg.255-256
         D5, Pg.159-163,283-287,345-346,369-375
         D6, Pg.60,145,152-153,200-202,284-287,298
         D7, Pg.55-60,81,94-110,217-218,340,485-496
         D8, Pg.302,573
         T, Pg.148-154,758-763
         DT1, Pg.52,105,138,250,279
         DT2, Pg.14,69,103,171,179,253,499
         DT3, Pg.90,228,282,350
         G: Pgs. 1728-1729
                  Pg.126: 41
                  Pg.602: 274
                  Pg.700: 15
                  Pg.754: 74, 139
                  Pg.1236: 155, 200, 240, 251, 288
                  Pg.1323: 112
                  Pg.1393: 71
                  Pg.1577: 41, 439, 759
Unnecessary roughness    271
Unsportsmanlike conduct  270

V

Vaginismus       268-269
Valentine's Day  36
Value conflicts  336
Van Wagenen, Lola        507
VanDellen, T.R.  525
VanGogh, Vincent         423
Vanton, Monte    434-435
Variety  125
Venting  414
Vertical communications  276
Vices, overcoming
         T: Pg. 727-736
See also Habits, Change
Vicious cycles   248
Violence, TV     527
Visual man       401-403
Visual woman     407
Vows, wedding    346
Vulnerability    239, 343-344, 509

W

Walking out on arguments         271, 335
Walster, Elaine  508
Wandering eyes   357
Warmth   99, 387
Warren, Earl     521
Warren, Neil     434
Waterman, Nixon  187
Waving goodbye to spouse         524
Ways to keep your lover, Bessell's       240
Weaknesses       189
Wedding ring     20
Wedding vows     346
"While we're on the subject"     431
Whitman, Walt    471
Will power       516-517
         D2, Pg.12
         W 70, Pg. 1 "Getting to Top"
Wilson, W. Heartsill     528
Wish List        248
Women    36, 83-84, 134, 193-194, 210-211,
212-218, 252-258, 296-299, 331
         D2, Pg.619,620
         D3, Pg.99-100,210-212
         D4, Pg.149-152
         D5, Pg.55-56,78,288-294,382-386,386-391
         D7, Pg.15-17,175,265
         G: Pg.124: 2, 17
                  Pg.126: 42
                  Pg.715: 41
                  Pg.1159: 21, 22, 58, 59
                  Pg.1236: 351, 394
                  Pg.1393: 3, 15, 18, 31, 77
                  Pg.1550: 1, 38
         W 77, Pg. 1 "Men in Love"
See also Female temperament; Human Nature
Women's Lib      424, 426
         D1, Pg.31
         D3, Pg.211
         D7, Pg.301,303,304,316
         T: Pg. 702, 752
Word of God
         reading  527
         use of in counselling    205-206, 207
         Children: D1, Pg.138-139,554-556
                  D2, Pg.200-201
         General references: D1, Pg.141,535
                  D2, Pg.152,156,238-243,270,642,646,648
                  D4, Pg.166
                  D5, Pg.6-9,181-185,222,356-359,359-361
                  D6, Pg.139-142
                  D8, Pg.122,393,402-418,452,456-459
                  T, Pg.5-6,17-20,52,63-64,177-190,
                          241-243,250,350-354,386-387,402-404,
                           421-423,809,836
                  DT1, Pg.6,50,56,62,92,93,97,108,121,122,134,
                          152,153,177,214,232,240,245, 291,301,
                           310,334
                  DT2, Pg.10,38,61,82,117,126,147,163,184,
                          195,197,212,224,263,267,271,305,310,
                           314, 319,320,530,531
                  DT3, Pg.3,5,21,22,37,50,67,82,92,95,102,
                          136,161,165,179,208,244,250,256,283,
                           305,310,342,357
         Importance of: D1, Pg.4-8,134-137,110-111,300-303
                  D2, Pg.167,178,369-370,540
                  D4, Pg.20,75-79,365-366,384-389
                  D5, Pg.38-39,318-321
                  D6, Pg.39-43,133-139
                  D8, Pg.31-34,56-57,237,288-290,303-304
         Memory: D3, Pg.123,226-233
                  D6, Pg.143-144
                  D8, Pg.380-390
         Power of: D1, Pg.526
                  D2, Pg.582
                  D4, Pg.235
                  D5, Pg.19
                  D7, Pg.202,412-418
         Studying: D1, Pg.519-521
                  D2, Pg.532-535
                  D4, Pg.226
                  D5, Pg.43-45,68-70,91-93,274-275,311-312
                  D6, Pg.48-49,91
                  D8, Pg.67-70,407-411
         Will of God: D1, Pg.146
         Witnessing: D5, Pg.233-242,250-253
                  D6, Pg.252-257
         T: Pg. 5-6, 17-20, 52, 63-64, 177-190, 241-243,
                  250, 350-354, 386-387, 402-404, 421-423,
                  809, 836
         G: Pgs. 673-699
Words
         describing feelings      445
         importance of    489
Worksheet: Goals         443
See also Charts & lists
Worry    49, 150-151, 395, 508
         D1, Pg.479
         D2, Pg.141,162,224,327,580,598,631,634
         D3, Pg.41-43,48-49,307-308,416
         D4, Pg.32-33,40-41,272
         D6, Pg.26-27,309
         D7, Pg.511
         D8, Pg.122-125,326
         DT1, Pg.54,91,151,312,353
         T: Pg. 253-259, 358, 730-731
         G: Pg.507: 361
                  Pg.580: 85
                  Pg.602: 64, 83, 100, 399
                  Pg.1035: 16, 28, 30, 33, 38, 39, 59, 85, 107,
                           119, 123, 131, 145, 149,160,163,178,
                           179,199, 204, 205, 216, 246, 250, 258-
                           260, 266-270, 280, 287, 293, 294, 296,
                           300,302,307-311, 313-325, 327-329, 331,
                           332,335,338-342, 345-347, 349, 382, 388-
                           389, 407, 410, 434-435
                  Pg.1123: 1
                  Pg.1418: 11, 19
                  Pg.1422: 28, 52, 83
                  Pg.1508: 63, 64, 69, 85, 141, 149
                  Pg.1577: 437, 479, 497, 741, 772
Wright, Norman   204
"Wrong Number" Quiz      422-423
X

XYZ formula      447
Y

Yard work        494
Yieldedness      7-8, 7-8, 22, 146,
193, 264, 293, 319-323, 461, 521-522
         D1, Pg.80,95-97,114-118,146
         D2, Pg.71,142,162,267,309,311,334-338,379-388,
                 518,592-593,596-597,601-607,625
         D3, Pg.9-12,48-49,279-283,324-325,376,399,
                  410-411,421-430
         D4, Pg.233-239,268,295-297
         D6, Pg.71,271
         D7, Pg.176,255,265,442
         D8, Pg.250-252,253-281,291-321,329-330,551
         DT1, Pg.66,94,224,257,274,327,330,357
         DT2, Pg.139,148,256,291,340
         DT3, Pg.11,16,64,86,98,120,159,232
         T: Pg. 66, 136-139, 723-726, 821
         G: Pg.126: 45
                  Pg.483: 8
                  Pg.507: 1, 4, 7, 8, 19, 34, 39, 48, 69, 71, 75,
                           77, 84, 90, 95, 99,141,143,146-149,153
                           154, 183, 184, 186, 188, 190, 206,211,
                           212, 214, 220, 223, 227, 231, 232, 235,
                           240-242, 251, 260, 272, 288, 290, 308,
                           326, 327, 349, 352, 362, 364, 386, 394,
                           401, 407, 412, 414-416, 431, 439, 440,
                           445-446, 449, 452-455, 457, 459, 461,
                           463-464, 466, 468-469
                  Pg.602: 32, 309, 417, 436, 437
                  Pg.673: 60
                  Pg.715: 17
                  Pg.1035: 8, 35, 63, 88, 200, 414
                  Pg.1097: 2
                  Pg.1142: 30, 93, 165, 166, 178
                  Pg.1170: 78
                  Pg.1213: 23, 24
                  Pg.1393: 87
                  Pg.1407: 4
                  Pg.1411: 7
                  Pg.1412: 3
                  Pg.1433: 128
                  Pg.1482: 48
                  Pg.1577: 77, 97, 123, 128, 490, 566,
                           705, 793, 804
See also Submission
"You are bad" statements         451
"You are good" statements        449
"You messages"   99, 117-118, 306-308, 387, 447-448
"You should" statements  451