SHYNESS & TIMIDITY!               DFO1032  9/8/76
--Dad's answer to a question about shyness from Sergio, a Tenerife fish.

         1. I WAS VERY SHY WHEN I WAS YOUNG, EXTREMELY SHY. I was one of those little children that when a stranger comes to the door he runs & hides behind mother & holds onto her skirt. It's something that you don't learn, it's just sort of inborn. I was so shy to the point it was almost a phobia or something. I was still very shy until I was about 19 years of age!--All those years I knew the Lord & was a Christian, I believed the Bible & I had received Jesus as my Saviour & I was telling others about Christ, but it was very hard for me because I was extremely shy & bashful.
         2. It wasn't till I was 19 when I was filled with the Spirit that I lost the fear & the shyness & all, just overnight like that, just the Lord! I was anointed with such power of the Spirit I really didn't care what anybody thought then. I just socked it to them! (Maria: It doesn't happen with most people that way, though, they don't change all that much.) Well, look, Peter did! One night he was denying the Lord & running the other direction, & the Day of Pentecost he stood up before thousands & testified boldly! (Acts 2)
         3. Immediately after this experience I was no longer worried about what people thought. It didn't matter whether they thought I was good or bad, as long as I knew I was right & doing the right things & saying the right things. Then I became less self-conscious, I thought less about myself, & became more Christ-conscious, I kept my mind more on the Lord, I didn't worry about how I looked or how bad I was or what a poor personality I had, I just thought about Jesus. (Is.26:3)
         4. From that moment on I never again feared a congregation or an audience ever again, really. All I had to do was just think, "Now Lord, this is Your business, You've got to help me! I'm Yours & it doesn't matter what they think, You just do whatever You want to do!"--& I just went ahead!--I began being more honest with people then & just didn't care what they thought. I just gave them the Word & told them what I thought was right.
         5. IN A WAY I THINK TIMIDITY & SHYNESS IS OF THE ENEMY because it is a form of fear & it's a form of worry & a form of pride, basically. The fruit of timidity & shyness & over-bashfulness is not good. You're afraid to be honest, you're afraid to be open, sometimes you're even afraid to tell the truth--even if for good motives, you're afraid it will hurt somebody or something. But on the other hand, the truth is the truth even if it kills.
         6. Shyness is a form of pride! It's a combination of two things--fear & pride! You are afraid of what people will think about you. You fear the opinions of men. (Eph.6:6,7; Prov.29:25) But the Bible says you're not to be worried about the opinions of men, not to fear what men think about you or even what they say about you if you're doing what you know is right. Of course if you're doing wrong then you should be afraid!
         7. Timidity, shyness & bashfulness is basically fear which is the opposite of faith. So to overcome fear you must have more faith. The more faith in God you have, the more love of God you have & the more you know that you yourself are nothing, then you don't have to be anything, you quit trying to be somebody. When we come to that point where we don't care about trying so hard to be so good & better than others & we just sort of relax, we sort of find a rest & peace, we don't worry about it anymore, this is faith.
         8. And you get faith from reading the Bible. Every word you read gives you more faith as you read the Word. "Faith comes by hearing the Word of God." (Rom.10:17) Faith comes to you by hearing God's Word, reading God's Word, or even right now hearing God's Word from me. So the more you read the Bible or hear the Words of God, the more faith you will have & the less fear you will have!
         9. SO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS PRAY & ASK GOD FOR MORE OF HIS FAITH & MORE OF HIS SPIRIT & TO CONFESS, "Well, I can't do good so why keep on worrying about it? God, You'll have to make me good!" That's the only thing that makes anyone good is God's goodness. And I think one of the best ways to overcome it in some ways is by going to the opposite extreme. So number one, get saved & filled with the Spirit & with the power of the Holy Spirit, be able & willing to tell the truth & be honest & open & not really care what people think. You're to be concerned about people & their feelings & all that, but at the same time you're not to be so concerned that you're a man-pleaser.
         10. Even with each other like we do here at home, I just blurt out a lot of things that come to your mind that either you're too bashful or shy & afraid to say them, or maybe you don't even think they ought to be said. But I have found it does me good, & I think it does you good, because it strips away all these veils & all this cover-up & the truth is humbling. If shyness is basically pride & fear, then it's good to face it & just break it down. And about the best way you can do it is just to blurt it out, spill it out, tell the truth, tell the whole story to somebody.
         11. I think the Lord, of course, is the main secret. Once you love the Lord & know He loves you & you're willing to confess everything to Him, & then you're willing to confess it to yourself, finally you're willing to confess it to others.
         12. HAS HE FREED YOU FROM THE PRIDE & SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS OF SHYNESS & TIMIDITY?--If not, receive the Baptism of the Power of His Spirit NOW!--And you will be!--Hallelujah!--And you'll witness like you never witnessed before! PTL! GBY! "Receive Power NOW!"--Acts 1:8. PTL!


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