MALE OR FEMALE?  DO 529   5/74

         1. When I love someone, I really love them & I want to give THEM what THEY want & need the most! But there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between MEN & WOMEN & what they WANT & what they NEED! I'm talking about what a MAN needs from a WOMAN & a WOMAN needs from a MAN.
         2. Men are funny! What is it they want & need the most & what satisfies them? Well, they are desperate for love & affection, & in their case particularly SEXUAL love. Men can get so horny they'll even KILL to get it! They have GOT to have a woman & they have GOT to fuck her! It's just virtually an irresistible desire on their part that apparently God has given them to perpetuate the human race.
         3. It is a tremendous urge with men! It is just about the strongest urge & need they have, more than any other physical need or urge. As soon as they're DONE they're DONE, & it is OVER with them as far as sex is concerned. They don't have too much further desire for or toward the woman, unless they have a real LOVE for her.
         4. SEX is a BASIC ESSENTIAL need of the male personality & the strongest of ALL his needs aside from his SPIRITUAL needs. People have been known to keep on having sex as long as they were able, even when they were starving to death!
         5. Normally most women give a man sex primarily because he needs it & he initiates it & she wants to satisfy him & make him happy. And therefore, this is why a woman normally only makes love to the men she LIKES.
         6. But by comparison, most women's sex drive is NOT all that strong. That's not their strongest drive of any kind or their major need or their most urgent necessity. I really believe they do it mostly because they LIKE or LOVE a man & want to PLEASE him, as well as at the same time being physically attracted & enjoying it.
         7. It is the woman's role to usually have a desire to satisfy the man--"the WOMAN was made for MAN & NOT the man for the WOMAN!"--1Cor.11:9. At the same time God has made her physiologically so that she ALSO can enjoy it & be satisfied. She too can enjoy a climax & get a great deal of satisfaction from the act. But the whole operation is usually initiated by the MAN as being HIS MAJOR AIM!
         8. So that's what a MAN wants most of all, & that's what you have to give him to keep him happy! What can you do most of all to make a man happy?--Satisfy his normal SEX drive! I'm talking about his PHYSICAL needs now, not his SPIRITUAL needs. Of course now, you CAN link that SEX love with his SPIRITUAL need for REAL love & show him the similarity.
         9. The basic need of both sexes is REAL love. The greatest need of ALL is LOVE. "The greatest of these is LOVE" (1Cor.13:13), but the way a MAN needs to have his love expressed is DIFFERENT from the way a woman MOST wants HER love expressed.
         10. The need for love is a SPIRITUAL need--REAL love. But LOVE must be manifested in WORKS--"FAITH that WORKETH through LOVE!"--Gal.5:6. It must be PHYSICALLY shown if it IS real love, right? It has to be expressed in some way, & a MAN simply likes his WOMAN'S love expressed in SEX almost above all--that is, the NORMAL AVERAGE male. If he figures a woman really LOVES him, the greatest proof to HIM is that she'll let him FUCK her!
         11. But a woman needs love expressed in a much greater variety of ways than mere sex or the bed. A woman's needs & her need of love is much more COMPLEX than a man's, & her MAJOR need of his love's expression is NOT sex nor the BED--that's only PART of it. The greatest need of MOST women is for a man's love expressed in his SECURITY, PROVISION & PROTECTION. A woman needs love expressed in THESE ways most of all.
         12. She needs to know that a man loves her enough to take CARE of her, PROTECT her, PROVIDE for her. She wants to sleep in his arms not primarily because of a SEXUAL urge, but because of an instinctive desire for his affectionate PROTECTION & his loving CARE. More than a man's SEX, a woman needs a man's HOME, his HEART & his HEARTH, his PROTECTION & PROVISIONS.
         13. Therefore, many a woman has been known to forsake a good lover who didn't or couldn't take care of her for a man who could give her little or NO sexual love at all, but who could tenderly gently CARE for her day after day, & beside whom she could SLEEP & feel SECURE night after night!
         14. The normal woman also prefers her CHILDREN to LOVEMAKING, & prefers a good father for them to help her CARE for them & TRAIN them over a good sexual LOVER who wants NO children. A woman is happy to give a man sex & enjoy it in RETURN for all these, but the average woman is far from willing to forsake all THESE for nothing but SEX!
         15. A man can actually do without other things & sometimes hardly miss them, but he has GOT to have a WOMAN for SEX or he will nearly go CRAZY! Many a wife has driven her husband crazy or at least from home by withholding herself from him & denying her mate sex, his absolutely necessary due.
         16. So it is much easier for a woman to satisfy a man's greatest needs, which are primarily SEXUAL, & their methods of satisfying him can be quick, easy & with no strings attached. She can send him merrily on his way, happy & content just from having been to bed with her, having satisfied himself with her love expressed by her body.
         17. But men have to offer the WOMEN a lot MORE than a quick fuck to make THEM happy! They not only want your LOVE, but they want your HEART, your HOME, your INCOME, your CHILDREN & your LIFE, even more than your LOVEMAKING, which is just the opposite from the BOYS! That's why it's virtually impossible for a man to try to carry on such a program of mass lovemaking with many WOMEN, as some girls do with many boys, because the women don't merely want to move into a fellow's arms.
         18. WOMEN usually don't like the idea of having to share their man with others. But the BOYS are perfectly happy & sometimes satisfied for days at a time from merely spending a few moments in your arms & obtaining the urgent sexual satisfaction they need.
         19. A man DOES have OTHER needs too, of course, such as a COOK, HOUSEKEEPER, MOTHER for his children & COMPANION, someone with whom to SHARE his daily life. He does like to feel NEEDED, & he has that instinctive desire to want to CARE for, PROVIDE for & PROTECT his woman & try to make her HAPPY.
         20. But a man can be fairly happy if some woman is at least merely providing his sexual needs, which are MUCH LESS than ALL of these needs of the WOMAN.
         21. So this explains why it is a lot easier to fish for MALE fish than for FEMALE fish. The MALE is satisfied with the BAIT even if he's HOOKED! The FEMALE fish wants the BAIT, HOOK, LINE & SINKER, POLE, BOAT & FISHERMAN! Which makes it a little more difficult to catch FEMALES than MALES!
         22. But don't give up!--PROMISE her EVERYTHING & GIVE her whatever she NEEDS, & she'll REMAIN one of your loyal faithful devotees FOREVER! Whereas the MALES may drift IN & OUT for a mere bite of BAIT & be GONE again!
         23. We've found the FEMALES STICK AROUND LONGER, believe it or not! So they're WORTH promising EVERYTHING to catch'm! So go after those GALS, guys. They're great! They make terrific WIVES!--And we've got EVERYTHING in OUR Family to GIVE'M!
         24. We can give'm ALL a home, plentiful PROVISION, perfect PROTECTION, loving CARE, lots of SEX, plenty of CHILDREN & EVERYTHING they always wanted, including FORGIVENESS of sins, FAITH in God, LOVE in Christ, something to really LIVE & WORK for, PEACE of mind, HEALTH of body & JOY & HAPPINESS & LOVE & LAUGHTER FOREVER after!
         25. They just GOTTA learn to SHARE!--Amen, girls?--We LOVE you! You're the GREATEST! Keep it BUSY! USE it! We LOVE it! Thank you! God BLESS & KEEP you & keep MAKING you a blessing!--In JESUS' name! PTL? Amen!


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